Changing engagement ring setting, nervous

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I went from a classic solitaire a unique halo setting. Even though it was the setting of my dreams I was still a little nervous. Sometimes change, even as minor as a piece of jewelry, can cause a little anxiety. Luckily when I got my ring back it was as amazing as I had always hoped for and I am sure your new ring will be too! I can’t wait to see pictures when you get it! Smile

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Yep! My third set is in production as we speak! DH initially bought me a marquise with baguette sidestones in yellow gold and while I loved it, it was impossible to find a weddingband I loved that could also stand alone on occasion and it was VERY similar to an “ex-ring.”  LOL

 

Next set was a 1.4 center cushion micropave halo set with a contoured band with matching diamond micropave in 14K white gold. I lost a stone fairly early into wearing it and that always bugged me, I was really paranoid after that! It is and was pretty. I may still wear it from time to time but mainly, my DD loves it, so I believe it will be put away and passed down to her when the time comes (hopefully a LONG time from now!!)

 

Circumstances have changed a bit since we married in 2012 so my lovely DH suggested an upgrade recently. This time we went with a 2.1 carat round brilliant solitaire set in 14K white gold – we debated platinum but I am not a fan of the patina.  I planned to wear it with my mom’s 5 stone band and I may still from time to time but recently found out it needs basically completely redone (it is about 40 years old and Mom wore it every day until she passed) so it’s at the jeweler’s now and once done, I will probably wear it on my right hand as I have fallen in love with a woven 3/4 eternity band with bezel set stones at even intervals and I just found out (quite by accident!) that my husband did order it! It is being made as we speak, by Etsy seller Sundarigems and I am SO excited! I believe this will be my forever set – my husband is a saint. He says if not that is OK too.

 

I will not get my set until at least my birthday (next month) or Christmas at the latest – but I will definitely post pics when I do! Can’t wait to see yours!!!

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@dar7:  You are totally normal! I will be back to see when you guys post pics! 🙂

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

@dar7:  I had almost the same situation!! 1st ring had to be exchanged (kept the center diamond), 2nd set just wasn’t me & I had a lot of problems with it too. For the 3rd ring I had the diamonds from my engagement ring reset into a new custom bezel set & new bezel set wedding band. The wedding band from my 2nd set fits perfectly with my new set so I can swap it out if I want. I LOVE my new set so this should finally be it. Third time’s a charm I hope!!! 🙂

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@dar7:  I just went from a solitaire to a halo. I’m loving it so far. I have 27 more days to decide. There was a 30 day guarantee. If I take it back anytime within that frame I get the money back for the setting. Not sure if I get money back for the prongs, etc. if I take it back.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

@dar7: Go for it! I think it is great that your hubby just wants you to be happy with your ring!

We’ve changed mine twice and I’m probably changing it again next year. I’ve already told DH I want to have some custom work done and he has given me the green light.

DH proposed with a half carat, yellow gold solitaire that had been in his family for a while. It wasn’t a particularly sentimental ring. He just thought the diamond would be nice for me.

However, I wanted something with more bling and I definitely wanted white gold. So I asked him if I could have the diamond placed in a different setting, and he said sure.

So I found a one carat, seven stone, scalloped half eternity band that I was crazy head over heels in love with, like swooning, and I told him that’s what I wanted. We got it, and took it to a jeweler to have it modified. We took out the middle stone on the top of the band, and placed my center stone in. This is how it came out:

 

 

 

 And here it is with the one carat eternity wedding band we added later:

 

 

And here it is with a little, twisty band I found in a pawn shop this past summer:

 

 

I love my rings, but what I’ve found is that over time I’ve grown to feel that I want the center stone on my e-ring to have a larger profile. It’s only a half carat and I don’t think it stands out enough compared to the large-ish stones on the half eternity band.

So I’m thinking of having it customized to add a halo to the center stone.

OR I may just take the center stone out altogether, and restore it to the way it was originally, a chunky half-eternity band. And then my e-ring would be an eternity band and I would have a stacking set. 

If I go that route, then I will have to figure out what to do with the half carat center stone. I may have a halo put on it, and place it back onto the original yellow gold solitaire band that DH proposed with, and have it rhodium dipped to make it white gold. Here is a CZ halo ring with a half carat center stone I found on E-Bay that I paired with my wedding band, to see what it would look like. 

 

 

If I do this, I would actually end up with two engagement rings, LOL! One would be basically the solitaire DH originally proposed with, with a halo added and rhodium dipped to make it white gold. The other e-ring would be the seven stone half eternity band that we got as a setting for the diamond.

So many choices! I know some Bees are very adamant that they don’t believe in upgrading because they think it somehow ruins the sentiment or could hurt the guy’s feelings. But that doesn’t really apply to us. My DH doesn’t pay too much attention to my rings, he just wants me to be happy with what’s on my finger and he doesn’t care what I do. Haha! 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

@dar7:  

When you are posting, there should be a little camera looking button at the top of the window. If you click on it, it will say something like “browse your files to insert a picture.” At that point you should be able to look through the photos on your phone and pick one.

Everyone’s phone is a little different, though. Good luck!

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

@dar7:  Sure!

I don’t actually have a good picture of my 1st ring (I don’t know how that happened!)

Here is my 2nd set with wedding band & anniversary band. Way too much going on in my opinion & not really my style:

And here are a few views of my 3rd & hopefully last set reusing all the stones from my 2nd enagagement ring:

And here is my new e-ring ring with my old channel set wedding band which I think fits perfectly for when I want to change it up:

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@dar7:  I changed my right hand ring, does that count?? LOVE the way it turned out. Thought I wanted rose gold but the color along with the prong set stone just wasn’t doing it for me so I changed it to a white gold bezel 🙂

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