Changing engagement ring?

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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904 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 1975

ivyflames:  Girrrrrrl. You need to go with what you like! You’re buying it, or paying for at least half of it, and you’ll be wearing it the rest of your life. This is your ring. Not anyone else’s. Not everyone will agree, but that’s the beauty in different personalities and opinions. You’re clearly not happy with what you have at the moment. You have the means to upgrade. By all means do it, you can’t please everyone anyways.

Post # 3
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5228 posts
Bee Keeper

Future MIL doesn’t have to wear it, so she doesn’t get an opinion. Why does she care? I find that so odd. Maybe your FI should afdress ot with her . Next time she brings it up.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May

Get the set you found. Get married with it. That new set will have so much meaning and sentiment behind it. People upgrade, change rings all the time. I don’t see anything wrong with it.

Post # 5
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262 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Bridey77:  Second! I totally agree, it’s your hand and ring. Why does it bother her? Is there some underlying stuff going on?

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I agree with the PP that you should get what YOU and your FI are happy with.

Is it possible that his mom doesn’t know/understand the back story of the three rings you have had and why you aren’t completely happy with them? (i.e. she thinks you keep wanting different rings, when really they were either not your style, broke, or not durable) Not saying that it should matter, just trying to think of a reason why she might care so much . . . 

Post # 7
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5228 posts
Bee Keeper

Bridey77:  Ugh, Im typing on a crappy Ipad and now I can’t fix my typos :\

Post # 8
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1987 posts
Buzzing bee

Bridey77:  I know, right? I seriously think we should be able to edit our posts longer than the millisecond we have now.

OP–what the heck? Your MiL needs a big ol’ dose of some ‘butt the f*ck out’. Get the set you want (and deserve)! You’ll be the one wearing it. 

Post # 9
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Honey bee

ivyflames:  I wholeheartedly agree with all the PPs who said you should get the set you want. If you and your FI are both okay with the change, that’s all that matters. It’s your ring, and it should be something that you love, that fits your style, and that makes you smile each time you look at it on your hand.

Post # 10
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5277 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

Get what you want; it’s your ring.

Post # 12
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527 posts
Busy bee

ivyflames:  Is she the jealous type? I mean, does she control her son in other ways?

Edited to add, no matter her reasons, it’s still none of her business!

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 4 months ago by  GreenBayBee.
Post # 14
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5228 posts
Bee Keeper

ivyflames:  She’ll get over it. I’m sure that after the wedding she’ll stop being a PIA about it. On a side note, do you have a pic of the ring? I would love to see it, as well as the rest of my fellow ring porn addicts I’m sure.

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