Post # 1
To those brides thy have changed from rather high heels (I’m probably looking at around 4″ heels) to sandals, ballet flats, flip flops etc.: how did that work out? It seems like that would be “a lot of dress” with nowhere to go or just being dragged over the floor.
did it bother you dancing? Did it look ugly in the pictures?
Would you do it again or recommend wearing much lower heels to begin with so the difference isn’t as noticeable?
I will have a trumpet with crinoline, so it should offer some support in itself that I would hope keeps the dress from scrubbing all over the floor.
Post # 2
My daughter’s figured out that even with a bustle, they’d have drag. (i.e. Taking the heels off, for the reception and bustling, at the same time). Daughter #1 got 2 inch heels, which she just took off. I don’t remember if she brought other shoes or flip flops; I know I forgot mine. Daughter #2 got 2 inch heels, from David’s bridal and is switching-out into their 1/2 inch heel sandals, when she bustles and does her bridal party entrance. Should be okay – will test it after alterations. I see there’s a lot of 5-inch, expensive, designer heels out there, and I don’t know what brides do with the extra dress length, unless it’s through a bustling trick; there also seems to be a lot of 2nd/reception dresses worn.
Post # 3
The height between my heels and flip flops wasn’t that big. The flip flops had sort of a platform. I managed to last in my heels until 11 or 11:30, then I found my mom and told her I needed my flip flops badly. She ran up to our room and got them for me.
By 11 or 11:30 the photographers were gone, so I didn’t have to worry about pictures.
Post # 4
I ended up going with flats and then my dress was too long – the dress shop had told me that the hoop would hold the dress enough that it wouldn’t matter and they were wrong. So I tripped over my dress all the way down the ailse and it messed up our first dance…later on I ended up taking my shoes off altogether and by then it didn’t matter. So if you decide to switch – do it later on!
Post # 5
I had a similar idea but decided that instead of flats, I’d switch into comfy wedges. I started in these — 3 1/2″ heel:
and ended up switching to Toms during the last hour of the reception –3 1/4″ heel:
The Toms were super comfortable. (Although even that 1/4″ difference was noticeable while dancing! I had to try hard not to trip) I would suggest either picking a “reception shoe” that is similar in height to your ceremony shoe, or else asking your seamstress about setting your dress up with two different bustle heights (this only works if your bustle is fairly simple, I think).
Post # 6
PABride: MrsGatito: envirobride: brlabrat:
Thanks you guys! I was hoping the responses would be different, but it’s good to know!!
I haven’t thought about the wedge alternative … I do own one pair (Tommy Hilfiger) that are super uncomfortable, but usually they really are rather comfy.
With regards to bustles, I don’t like the way they make the dress look so if I need one, I think I’d try an Italian one (so the bustle is hidden) – maybe this could actually be done though, because if you’re basically “folding” the dress on the inside anyways, it may work.
Thanks for the advice, I appreciate it!
Post # 7
Mine looked ok after I switched, but the bottom got FILTHY and it was in my way dancing, I kept tripping over it and it got twisted all around me. I’d have chosen maybe a thick wedge flip flop if I were to do it again instead of plain flat ones. And I had mine bustled since it had a train. You kind of have to with one.
Post # 8
Yeah the bottom of the dress definitely dragged after I changed my shoes. It was annoying. I ended up taking off my crinoline too because I was so hot, and that made it even longer.
Post # 9
I actually had my dress hemmed a little short for my 3″ heels (personally I liked the look of my shoes/toes peeking out – plus all of our photos were outside and my heels sunk into the grass anyways so the length was fine) and then changed into flats (1/2″ heel) later in the night around 8pm. I didn’t really notice any issues from the extra inch or two of material. (and around 10:30 pm I changed into my reception dress which was awesome! I loved my dress buy boy was happy to get that think off me after 8 hrs)
I decided early on that I was going to make sure I had a flat shoe plan since I have seen so many brides miserable in their shoes/ tripping over their dress all night. For my friends wedding I ended up having to make a “bustle” with a bunch of safety pins because when she took of her 4″ heels on an already long dress she was unable to move around without tripping. I think it really depends on the dress though.
Post # 10
littlemisshostess: do you have pics of your dress in either/both pairs of shoes?
Post # 11
I wore 3.5 inch heels, I Just took them off and put on flip flops. My dress dragged, but it wasn’t a big deal.
Post # 12
MsJ2theZ: Westwood: I wouldn’t mind the bottom getting too filthy – I won’t need it after the wedding anway 😉 But the thought of tripping my way through the night doesn’t sound too appealing, ugh.
littlemisshostess: I don’t think it’s going to work out with just a small difference as I just fell in love with 4 inch heels. But maybe I should re-visit my idea of having a reception dress 😀 (It’s just not done at all here in Germany, though, so people would look at me like I was crazy and actually, SO has already said so when I ran the idea past him…) It does sound like a clever alternative though! (I would wear a short dress then.)
oneyearout: Unfortunately not, as I’m a bit late. I ordered a replica of the Alvina Valenta 9358:
And I’ll probably be wearing around 4″ heels with them / flat sandals lateron (as in no heel at all).
starfish0116: Thank you – so maybe there is hope after all… ?!