Post # 1
I’m looking for some advice. I sent out my STD before Christmas and combined them with my usual Christmas cards so they were sent to everyone on our invite list, which I now realize was stupid of me. I’ve been with my current company almost 6 years and I invited my current boss and my old bosses who I’ve stayed in touch with, about 6 people in total plus their SO. So I’m changing jobs in July, 2 months before the wedding. I’m leaving my current job to go into a completely different field of work but I don’t want to burn any bridges. Should I still send them an invite? I’m concerned it would be rude if I still sent them an invite and look like I’m just looking for presents. I also don’t want to be seen as rude and remove them from the guest list . . . Any help?
Post # 3
If your old bosses got an STD then I think you should send them an invite. I don’t necessarily agree that they need to be invited, but if you already sent them an STD, then I don’t think you have much of a choice.
Post # 4
I’d send them an invite. I don’t think you’ll look like you’re grabbing for gifts, you knew them for 6 years!
Post # 5
Yes, invite your old boss. It is good etiquette, and a show of respect for the relationship that you have with them. It will strengthen you professionally, both with your former employer, and your new employer, who will see that you honoured the promise inherent to the save-the-date, that you have maintained positive relationships after leaving your previous employment, that your previous employers respect you enough still to come to your wedding, and will overall serve your professional and social reputations well. You will become known as a courteous and respectful professional, as well as generous and gracious hostess.
Post # 6
I agree, you have worked with them for 6 years so I would invite them
Post # 7
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Post # 8
@nikichar18: I agree that since you sent them a STD, you have to send them an invite, or that would be rude. They may not feel a need to come since you know longer work together, but don’t be surprised if they do, because of your long-standing working relationship. I will be changing jobs soon, and I may not invite my current boss, because our wedding isn’t until next year, so by then I will have been in my new job for over a year. But since it’s only 2 months away AND you already sent the STD, I say you have to send an invite to your “old” boss!