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@daisybride, youre right! i just realized that. I think most of my aggressive is new. before the wedding, i dont think i minded so much. now that I actually have to bite the bullet, Im dragging my feet. damnit...i hate it when im a hypocrite. LOL! huh...i talked to my dad about this last week and he is sad too. can i hyphenate my middle name? does anyone know?
Nope, not changing my name. I really don't like my last name, but I don't want to give up my heritage, identity, and professional accomplishments with a name change. Personally, I think it's an antiquated and archiac process.
@jpbw: I once had a friend whose mom's maiden name was Dick ... and she married a Cocker. No lie.
And while having this conversation with some girlfriends several months ago, one mentioned that she can't wait to one day change her name. Why? Her maiden is Hiscock.
I am actually not sure what I am going to do yet. Part of me wants to keep my name. I mean it is who I am. Most of my friends from college call me by my last name. It is part of my identity. And the whole idea of the woman taking the mans name seems quite archaic. However on the other hand I want to have a family with my FI. And I want use to all have one name. And not hyphenated.
My FI has been super cool with all of this. He said if I want to change my name I can, and if not that's cool too. I asked him if he would change his name and that was not an option. Which I can understand.
So for now I am keeping my name. Maybe one day before kids I will change it but for now it is staying as it is.
starcharades: I am thinking about insisting that my children have my last name. I mean, afterall, I am the one BIRTHING them. I am going through all the emotional and physical pain, I should at least get to give them my name >.<
Husband is not on board with this yet, but we'll see if I can wear him down!
In Spain the woman doesn't take on the husband's name. So I will be keeping my name!
@FutureMrsMorgan, i think it depends on the state you live in. From what I've heard, in some states you can change to have two middle names and a new last after a marriage, but in other states changing your middle name requires a court order and is more complicated than just changing your last name. I'm hoping to go the two-middles route (with no hyphen), but I was told by another bride that they won't let you do that in my state (NJ). I'm going to the SS office tomorrow though and am going to at least give it a try... I'll let you know how it goes!
I lived in S.Korea for a year and the women traditionally don't take their husband's name. I found it refreshing and seeing it in practice convinced me to keep my name. When we have children, I'll consider adding it on, but I'm pretty set on keeping it. Plus it's not unusual here in Sweden to have different last names, so it's no biggie.
I just wrote a blog post about my reasons for changing my name.
check it out - http://bridesideoflife.blogspot.com, and good luck on your decision.
I've always been a bit attached to my last name too, so I kind of always thought I'd have a hyphenated last name, but now I'm thinking I'll just keep both and have four names...
My mom did the traditional thing of making her maiden name her middle name and taking my dad's last name and then dropped her middle name. But my first name is a family name I'd like to pass on to a daughter one day so I wouldn't want to lose that in favor of doing it her way, and I go by my middle name, so I wouldn't want to drop that either...what do y'all think?
im kind of attached to my last name, and since my father doesnt have any sons and im the last daughter, its kinda sad.
I plan on keeping my name and adding on his name - no hyphen though.
so for legal purposes i will have 4 names, for personal use i will just use my first and last name.
the big pain will be all the paperwork at work. ugh.
We're both changing our names! Well, at least we're 95% sure thats what we're doing. I'm not attached to my name, he doesn't like his... we do want to have the same name, but don't like the symbolic sort of 'possession' the name giving carries with it... And we dislike the idea of having two last names (or hyphenating the two). SO we're taking the first 3 letters of my name and the first 4 of his and putting them together to name our new last name! Which, unbelievably, is a pretty normal last name. :)
I always planned on changing my name, but it's a little harder now that the time is coming. I'm excited and sad at the same time. Unfortunately I don't have a last name that I could make my middle name or hyphenate. Oh well, my new name will be a little easier for people to spell and pronounce. 
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