Post # 1
When I get married I’m taking my FI’s last name. However, I’d like to change my middle name to my mother’s first name. Instead of EJS I will become EPS. FI’s last name and mine start with S.
How difficult is it to change your middle name when you get married? I live in Missouri, not sure if that makes a difference. If I don’t do it now, I never will. And it’s really important that I do this. It means a lot to me and will make my mom so happy.
Who’s been there, done that and can give me some tips or heads ups? I Know brides do this with their maiden names…but I already have a middle name. Hmm. Thanks
Post # 3
Interesting. I know it wouldn’t be a problem in Florida. You get two free name changes in Florida – marriage and divorce. But people pay to change their names to crazy other things all the time. You definately could do this – and I love the reasonaing behind it!
Post # 4
Ejs4y8, I looked into it a little bit as for waht to do after marriage and there is a way to change your middle name too. Since you are waiting to change your middle name with your marriage you may be able to forgo the court document needed for a non marital/divorce name change. You may want to check into that though to be sure. I know just to change your name for the sake of changing it you have to get a court approved name change document. Your marriage licsense is document enough for getting married, so that is why it may work for your situation. You can always call up the courthouse and ask.
Post # 5
Thanks! I asked the DMV and they said I needed a court order since it’s not my "given" Name. Surely it’s not THAT difficult b/c i know people do this, and I definitely want it done simultaneously. It’ll be too hard and i’m not changing everything twice! I’m going to call them up tonight.
Post # 6
I think you should skip dealing with the DMV and call the Social Security office instead. I’ve heard a lot more stories of girls having issues with the DMV and not SS. Another reason is that SS is generally the first step anyways. If you have your new SS card with your name the way you want on it I don’t think the DMV can do much about it other than maybe fuss a little.
Post # 7
My mom did this when she got married in october. she had to pay a name change fee I think for the middle name part, but she decided to do both at once.
Post # 8
they said i can’t do both at once…i have to do one…then the other…how dumb is that? so i’m going to wait to file official "name change" paperwork until my middle name change clears, THEN i’ll get my last name change. But i’ll be in limbo for a month probably.
Post # 9
I’m doing the maiden to middle thing, and I think the rules are pretty much the same. From what I’ve researched so far, anything other than just taking your new husband’s last name (or not changing anything at all) is considered a legal name change and it has to go through the court. You have to pay a fee (which can be a couple hundred dollars) and most places seem to make you take out an ad in the newspaper saying your old name and new name (to prove you’re not trying to get out of debt by changing your name). It doesn’t seem difficult, just an annoying and lengthy process. If you ask at the courthouse where you will get your marriage license, they should be able to give you the details for your area.
Post # 10
I’m in CA and when I got married I went to the SSA to change my name first. I changed it to First, Mom’s Last My Maiden, Hubby’s Last. I used to be LMB, but now I’m LABP…I lost my old middle name when I did that. I tried to do the same with my driver’s license, and they wouldn’t have it. They said they only way they would take it is if the passport people would let me change it, but they said they doubted it would work. Well, I proved them wrong, ha! I mailed in my passport and changed it without a problem. Now, I have to head back to the DMV, probably this week, to try again to change my name on my license This was a couple months ago (and I haven’t been back to the DMV, but we’ve since bought a house and I’m waiting for it to officially close this week so when I go to the DMV I change my name and address at the same time. Just and FYI, the people at the DMV, including a manager I spoke to, said they didn’t care what name the SSA had because they care more about our number than our name, that’s why they said they would only do it if the passport did because the passport is and ID just like our license.
It worked for me, so I hope it works for you!