Changing my name?

posted 3 years ago in Names
Post # 2
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5286 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

You could keep your last name and add his: Pagano-Lonka.  What’s the tradition where you come from?  In my home country it’s customary to keep your name the same after marriage.

Post # 3
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212 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Have you talked to him about him switching his last name to yours?  Maybe he’ll consider it since he’s already switched his last name before.

Post # 4
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30 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I like the sound of Pagano-Lonka like the previous poster mentioned above. Best of both worlds- you get to keep your name and take his. And break up the sound of Laura Lonka 🙂 

Post # 5
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588 posts
Busy bee

I’d keep your name if you don’t want to change it. He might want to take yours too, you never know.

In my social circle, almost all the married women kept their original name because they were either the last in their family to have it or it was tied to a professional career or they just didn’t see the reason to change. I kept mine and am happy to have done so. At least where I live, changing your name is falling out of fashion. Some couples both took on a hyphen of the two names – that’s kind of cute. I think if DH and I both didn’t have insanely long names we might have combined them.

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Agreed, I would ask him how he feels about changing his name to yours if you want a shared family name. Lara Pagano sounds a lot nicer then Lara Lonka, I don’t blame you for feeling attached to it! 

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Have you considered making your maiden name your new, legal middle name?  That will allow you to be Lara Pagano Lonka without  having to hyphenate your last name. I made this type of name change, and it offers great flexibility.  It allows a woman to use the “Mrs.” honorific with her new last name when she wants to do so, while enabling her to maintain continuity of her identity by using all three of her names when she so desires.

Post # 9
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811 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I think that it is nice to have unity of one last name, especially if you are planning on having children. Also keep in mind that once you are married many people will call you Lara Lonka or Mrs. Lonka no matter what you make your legal last name.

I am in favor of Lara Pagano Lonka with Pagano as the new legal middle name. I think that it has a good ring to it as well, as Pagano IS a great italian name.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Lepagano:  You could always both change your last name to Pagano-Lonka. Then neither of you would lose your name and you’d both have the same last name…

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