Post # 1
What do you bees think of the idea of changing your last name, but not at work?
My partner really wants me to change my last name to his when we marry. I’m not against it and always thought I would take my husband’s name…but now it’s “real”, I’m less sure.
Im thinking about changing my name in my personal life, but not at work. I work in an environment where our last names are used constantly and feel that changing it would cause confusion, plus it’s part of my identity. I also like the idea of separating my work life and my private life. And, at a very superficial level, I don’t want to have to change my work email address! (Sounds silly but I’ve seen other newly married women have years of hassle with this).
Where do you stand?
Post # 3
Use three names at work. Your first name, maiden name, husband’s last name. Like Hillary Rodham Clinton.
Post # 4
I’ve heard of people going professionally by one last name (their maiden name) and personally by their husband’s last name and there’s nothing wrong with that! The “Hillary Rodham Clinton” idea is also a good one, but depending what your last names are it can be a mouthful. I think all your reasons, especially the one about seperating your work life from your private life, is a great reason to continue to go by your maiden name professionally. I’m keeping my maiden name in all aspects of life, personally: maybe I’ll change it when we have kids, maybe not 😉
Post # 5
My mom did exactly this. She wanted to keep her maiden name so she only officially changed to my dad’s name once they started having kids so she has the same last name as my brother and I. Her maiden name officially became her middle name and she goes by the full, 3-name name. She never switched over at work though; she figured why bother if her kids aren’t a part of that life?
Post # 6
I plan on keeping it at work and changing it everywhere else. I just got around to changing it from my previous married name to my maiden name at work. It was a nightmare. I work for a governmental entity, so the paperwork alone took weeks.
Post # 7
Before you decide, I would check on your company’s policy on this. Where I work, your name (on your office placard, your e-mail address, the employee directory, etc.) has to align with your legal name (the name that appears on your pay stubs, W4s, etc.)
Not saying you don’t have the options, some companies kind of make this decision for you, unfortunately.
Post # 8
I changed my name everywhere but at work, although I registered both names with the State Bar for practical reasons (you sometimes need to show ID along with your Bar Card at various courthouses, so I needed names to match.) The way I looked at it was I built my career and reputation with my maiden name, it would cause too much confusion to change it at this point in the game. I was more than happy to change it in my personal life, however. Plus, we have a son so I wanted us to have a last name in common.
Post # 9
@kyleandjillian61513: Yep same here the company I work for, is the same. Everything must match your tax info.
Post # 10
I did this. Or plan to when all my changing is done. I will change everything outside of work but don’t plan to send out that company wide email with a name change or change my work email. I’ve been there for 9 years. I think I’ll say maiden and new last name on my work voicemail but that’s it. I’ve already had a couple of people ask me about it at work and I just say I’m not changing it a work.
Post # 11
At work, I would change it for the paperwork, insurance, checks, etc… but keep it your maiden work for the people who call you and talk with you, keep the work email/voicemail the maiden name… why go through the hassle of changing it if you’ve been “Anna Jones” for years? Customers and vendors, depending on your work, will get confused, annoyed, etc…
Post # 12
I’m doing this, I’m a journalist and am no way starting from scratch on the byline front so I’m changing my name everywhere but work.
Post # 13
My office manager goes by her maiden name at work. She worked there before she was married, and it was just easier for her since all our clients know her by that name. Plus, her maiden name is only four letters & very easy to spell compared to her married name.
Post # 14
I think this makes sense depending on your job.
I am a registered nurse…I cannot legally change my name without also changing my name on my nursing license or else I could be subject to severe punishment from the nursing board.
In my profession, it’s all or nothing…so, I’m going to change it and I have to change it everywhere. However if you work in a profession that involves writing or publishing works, I would keep it!
Post # 15
I figure there are going to be some growing pains for a while after changing my name at work, but I figure it is easier to do it sooner rather than later and I plan to be married forever so eventually I will have my new name longer.
Post # 16
I wanted to do this also keep my maiden name for work but I dont think that is going to be possible..ugh it’s going to make everything so confusing when I change my name!!