Post # 1
Hi Bees, so I’m changing my wedding date because my mom-zilla has refused to stop b*tching about our January date ever since we booked 3 mos. ago (long story for another time). But not just because of her, my FI is more worried than I am about potentially cancelled flights if we have another bad winter, so we decided it would be for the best.
I have a choice of two consecutive Saturdays (don’t want to reveal exact dates right now). I prefer the later Saturday but it also happens to fall on my BM’s 30th birthday weekend. Normally I don’t think it would matter but I know that turning 30 is a big celebration for most people. So I’m strongly leaning towards the earlier Saturday to be considerate. I’m not going to bother asking her if she would mind if I had my wedding during her birthday weekend because I think it’s a loaded question – very probable that she would mind but she would be too nice to say that she doesn’t want me to get married that weekend. So I guess I’ll ask here instead! Do I go for the later Saturday and pick my wedding date as I please, or should I go for the earlier Saturday to not infringe on my BM’s birthday? Again, I’m likely going to just pick the non-birthday weekend since I’ll feel bothered otherwise, but interested in hearing how this kind of situation might normally be handled. Thanks. 🙂
Post # 2
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
If you really think she would be bothered, and her being bothered would make you feel bad (totally understandable), then I’d choose the other weekend. But to offer up a perspective on 30th birthdays, Mr. LK and I both went kinda big on our 30th birthdays, but didn’t care if the to-do was on our actual birthday weekends or not. As long as we celebrated, the actual “when” of the celebration was rather irrelevant.
Post # 3
what could be better than an open bar on your 30th birthday? haha
Post # 4
We avoided one date because it was my fiance’s sister’s birthday. She loves attention and wouldn’t have enjoyed sharing it with us.
However, I recently went to a wedding on the brother in laws birthday, and they brought him out his own cake and sang happy birthday to him halfway through the reception. It was really sweet and fun, and I think the bride and groom were very relieved to have a couple moments where the attention wasn’t on them after all day being in the spotlight.
Attention a close friend’s wedding on your birthday could be an amazing way to celebrate… but it all just depend on the person.
Post # 5
If there is nothing stopping you from picking the earlier weekend, why not go for that one? Seems like a good way to avoid potential drama or hurt feelings.
Post # 6
lovekiss: JustMe12182: mgbser: cbgg: Thank you for the input! We actually decided that we wanted the later date instead and figured my BM might not care since it’s not her actual birthday anyway. But then when I emailed the BMs to let me know if that date works, her response was what happened with the other date?? Sigh.
Post # 7
Jewelieee: I picked our date dodging the birthday of my brother, sister, BM and anniversary of my dad & step mom (which is his sister’s birthday) it was a task but I wanted a May date that didn’t conflict with those we wanted there.