(Closed) Changing names vs not changing name

posted 5 years ago in Names
Post # 3
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48 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I am also having a hard time with the name changing. I dont want to loose my moms last name nor my dads but I still wanna add my future hubbys last name. I am also having a hard time with the fact that my last name will not be carried on. 

What I dont understand is why cant you add his last name and have your future children be firstname yourlastname + hislastname. Like me I have my dads last name and my moms last name. Ive heard people say that one can only have one last name but my brothers and I have moms and dads last name. And my FI also has both his dadslastname + moms maidenname

Where you live, do you have the option to change borh urs and his name to hislastname-yourlastname? That could be an option.

Post # 4
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1832 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I’m not married yet, and it makes me sad, thinking I will no longer carry my fathers last name, but I am marrying the man of my dreams. I want to be his wife, and I will give up my family name, to happily start my new one! And have fun making babies and picking out important family names.

Post # 5
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6365 posts
Bee Keeper

He can change to your name (seriously).

Post # 7
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883 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

kept my name legally; socially and everywhere else I  am Deborah MyLastName HisLastName

I had my name for 54 years, and changing my address is a big enough hassle

 

Post # 8
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1572 posts
Bumble bee

I’m one of the folks who changed my name the next day. I had no issue with it, though I can understand how some people could. If you are worried about your children not having your name, then hyphenate the last name with both of yours – that is what a number of people I know did. 🙂

Post # 9
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1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

legally i’m still maiden name, socially it’s my lastname hislastname or just his lastname.

our son has his last name, it doesn’t bother me. i also grew up with a mom that kept her maiden name so it wasn’t a big change.

Post # 10
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4659 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I feel you.  I decided to do the psycho 18 character thing and hyphanate.  It was important to me to keep my last name, because, I’ve had it forever.  I agreed to hyphanate only because it seamed important to him.  Our kids can have his last name, but also he comes from a fairly long line (he is a IV!)  Even though it is becoming a little more common for the man to take the womans last name, I would have to admit that even though I consider myself progressive on the name change thing, many don’t, and might look at him wierd.  

Post # 11
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58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I am also having a really hard time with this.  My mom dropped her maiden name and she has always regretted it.  I’ve never really wanted to change my last name.  I am not getting married until December, so I have a little time still.  I would just not change my name, but I’d like to have a piece of my future husband & kids last name.  I love my middle name probably more than my last name so dropping that is not an option, and two middle names just doesn’t seem to work because how often do you use your middle name?  My main idea now is to change my name to Jenna J. B____ G________ (two last names with a space, not hyphen).  From what I’ve read I’ll be able to be Ms. B___ at work and then socially go by Ms. G_____.  Good luck with your decision. I change my mind daily. Let us know what you decide to do!

Post # 12
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1297 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I changed my name. I simply somehow always knew I would. It’s a very personal decision and I hope you find a solution that works for you!

Post # 13
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280 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m keeping my name with no qualms. In fact, FI’s sister and I have the same first name, and she kept her name when she married, too. Our children will be firstname middlename myname hisname on thier birth certs and likely firstname hisname in daily life, which I have no problem with.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I had no problems changing my name. Was happy to do it. I don’t care about my husband’s family, I care about my husband. I’m not close to my father in law in any way, but that doesn’t mean I have mixed emotions about sharing his last name – I share it with my husband and that’s the person that matters. 

Post # 15
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3 posts
Wannabee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We are thinking about both taking a completely new name.

Post # 16
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15 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@MrsAMac:  

http://finance.yahoo.com/family-home/article/112736/name-change-dilemma-women-marriage-wsj?mod=family-love_money

 
“Judged as smarter and more ambitious.”
 
Translation: $$$$$
 
 
I am very attached to my last name and don’t want to change it. However, some days I feel like I should. It’s a very difficult decision. I think I’m settling toward legally keeping my name, and socially taking my future husband’s name. 

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