Changing Our Wedding Date After Save the Dates!!! :(

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Hiswife2be:  First thing to remember is that this isn’t the end of the world and no reason to cancel everything. A save the date is just that–it isn’t an invitation. Things happen for a reason, and you cannot change that. I am not sure proper etiquette around informing guests, so hopefully someone can shed some light. If it were me, I’d send an e-mail to those that can accept them because you will be able to put an “due to unforseen circumstances” portion in there so they know to ignore the other save the date.

Post # 3
2501 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I would just send a new save the date with a note explaining the situation(if you want). I don’t think anyone will judge you for it, especially if it is out of your control. 

Post # 4
1893 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX

Hiswife2be:  I’m sure this is so so stressful, but it will be ok! You just sent the STDs out so people probably haven’t booked flights yet. If I were you I would start emailing/calling people immediately about the new date. I would also send out new paper save the dates and put on there that the date has changed. 

Post # 5
1202 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

You put down a deposit on a venue, and then they forced you to change the date? If that’s what happened, I would definitely be demading a steep discount from the venue.  

Good luck, take a deep breath, I’m sure your March wedding will still be lovely.  

Post # 8
51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

eeek! I would just resend new ones or send a follow up note saying the date has changed.

Post # 9
508 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

This stress would be worth more than $2,500 (for me).  I’d demand a bigger discount, like maybe some discounts on the rooms for your guests.

Post # 10
108 posts
Blushing bee

I’m so sorry!! As if wedding planning wasn’t stressful enough! I really believe in making the best out of these types of situations (once you’ve worked through how you feel, of course!) so maybe you could do something fun or silly to announce the change of the date? Maybe like an, OOPSIES save the date where you scratch out the old date and highlight the new one? Of course, explain it wasn’t in your control and your family and friends will totally understand! 

Post # 11
267 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Hiswife2be:  ok so don’t cancel everything! But also can you try to get your deposit back since you have issues with this venue and find a different venue in the same area? If you have already had issues with this venue do you really want to have them a part of this All of the way Until March? Also if you don’t change the venue I would ask that they give you a big enough discount to offset the cost of sending out new Save the dates. 

Post # 12
42182 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I agree with the pp who said she would make the best of it. I would send out

                                           “CHANGE THE DATE”  

postcards that you can print yourself or get done at Vistaprint.

That way you can mention that dues to circumstances beyond your control you are re-scheduling the wedding.

You can probaby find stock pictures on the internet. Place a pic of a couple bundled up for winter on the left with a circle and a line across it , and a spring pic with a red check mark over it.

Overlay the wording at the bottom of the postcard.

Post # 13
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yes, just send new STDs ASAP. You could word it “Save the (NEW) Date”

Post # 15
22 posts
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Wedge wood San Ramon

I had a friend that had similar issue… Just called everyone or sent new cards to let them new date. No big deal ppl will understand. 

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