Changing surname in documentations after wedding

posted 2 years ago in Names
Post # 2
2792 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

First, are you changing your name?   You really don’t have to. 

If you are, you need to wait for your marriage lisence back from being recorded after the ceremony.  If you are in the states, you should start with your driver’s license and your SS card.  Changing your name on your passport would depend on how often and when you next plan on travling, but with six years left, if you do it sooner, you will pay less money for it.  Before your passport, though, I would get your bank and student information updated, you will need to send your license off to get your passport updated, and may not get it back for several weeks. 

Post # 3
1287 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

moonpie90:  I am currently, slowly working on these things.  This is the order of which I have accomplished the task of name changing:

1) I sent a request to Probate for 2 certified copies of our marriage license.  Your county court shoud have info on how to do that, etc.  These will be needed in various circumstances.

2) Sent request for my new SS card.  Where I live, you can do that by mail.  Again, you can read up on it wherever you are from.  I sent the form, my passport and a certifed marriage license, all of which they sent back.  It took about 3 weeks to get my card.  Of course, you can go into your local office, and do it quickly, but I did not have the time or energy.

3) Went to the BMV for a DL.  I took marriage license and new SS card.  They issued one, no problem.

4) I am moving my money into DH’s bank.  She said once I have my new DL, it will be no problem adding me onto the account, getting checks, etc.  I do not need to change my name at my bank.

5) I submitted a copy of my new DL with a form to change my voter registration.

6) Utilities are mostly in DH’s name, because I sold my home and moved into his existing home, so I had no issues there.  I also do not have a credit card, student loans, mortgage, etc.

7) Passport – Our honeymoon is 6 months after our marriage in May, so upon meeting with the travel agent, while awaiting my new name documents, she told me that I do not have to worry about changing my name on my Passport.   I have 8 years left on my current one.  I have to book my airline ticket under the name on the Passport, no question.  International flying only uses your Passport for verification, so those have to match.  I am going to bring a copy of our marriage license JUST IN CASE there is an issue, and they need/question my DL, but I was instructed not an issue.

I am probably missing something, but 6 weeks in, I think I have done a lot!

Post # 4
667 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June, 2014

I used the website It took a while but you can get it all knocked out at once! I highly recommend it. 

Post # 7
1606 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I didn’t start changing my name right away, so I am still in the process. So far I’ve changed my:


*Health card

*Bank (debit card, and they now have my new last name on file)

*Voter’s card


Still need to change:


*Credit card

*SIN card

*Work (email, benefits card, etc)

It’s a hassle, but I’m hoping to get my credit card and passport done within the week!

Post # 8
2792 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014


moonpie90:  Being in the UK really does change a lot.

I just got through 90% of my name change stuff.  It is kind of a hassle no mater where you are from, but the best thing is to research on how to do it near where you live.  Even asking someone form a different state or county here will get you different answers.  A lot of people in the US will say driver’s license first because a lot more of us use that as our primary ID than people in the UK, but in the UK, your passport could be more important travling out of country is easier.  Really, the best is to work from your primary, most used and most important IDs and information to your least.  So the store credit card to the store you haven’t been to in 5 years probably doesn’t need to be updated as quickly as your primary bank information. 

Post # 9
9859 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

moonpie90:  it’s definitely different depending on where you live.  The process in Ontario, Canada is completely different than many other parts of the country.  I have to wait at least 6 weeks before i can even get my marriage certificate which I need to change anything.  It’s a giant PITA.  I’ve changed it at work so far (not on payroll because it’s not legally changed yet) but I’ve assumed the name, figure I might as well get used to my new last name sooner than later!

Post # 11
6525 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

moonpie90:  do YOU want to change your name? When you say you were told by your FI that you will NEED to change your name, it makes me assume that you have no other option. Just know that you don’t have to change your name. 

You cannot start the process of changing your name until you get your marriage license back from the county clerk. I live in NY and I got mine back exactly a month after our wedding. 

I took a day off from work to go to the Social Security office and the DMV to change my name. I also changed the name on my passport, it cost $110. I just wanted to get it over with. 

Post # 12
30 posts
  • Wedding: May 2014

In Ontario, its free to change to your last name on legal documents within 90 days of the wedding. I ended up doing it asap, that I don’t forget and have to pay for everything later.

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