- 3 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
We got engaged in December 2012 and are planning our wedding for June 7th 2014. I just found out last week that one of my bridesmaids is pregnant and due June 2nd. We’re so happy for them but obviously this changes things. She’s bowed out for the day-of but is still an honorary bridesmaid for all the shower/party events leading up to it. I feel so bad that she won’t be up there but it couldn’t be helped. She’s still hoping to attend as a guest if she can. Her husband is a groomsman and is still planning to be there.
We already had uneven groups. I had 3 bridesmaids and he had 4 groomsmen. Now I’m down to 2. I don’t really have that many close friends, hence only having 3 to begin with. I have a ton of good friends that I see socially, but only a few I feel genuinely close to, like sisters. Now I’m worried I’m going to look like some friendless loser up there. I’m also worried about all my friends I’m just not super close to sitting out there thinking “why didn’t she ask me?”
FI and I both only have brothers. I’ve been thinking of asking my FSIL (FI’s brother’s wife, brother is the best man). I considered her when we picked people in January but decided no back then. I don’t know her that well and she’s out of state. But now the out of state thing seems like no big deal and I’m almost looking at it like an investment in our future. I like her a lot and we’ll be in each other’s lives for years (the family is very close).
So, if I ask her, how do I do it so she doesn’t feel like an afterthought or replacement? I hate that she kind of would be. Would it be better to stick with my 2? Another option would be to have my 2 brothers as bridesmen, but we aren’t that close and they’re a bit socially awkward. I don’t think they’d enjoy it. Any other ideas?