(Closed) Changing your last name?

posted 5 years ago in Names
Post # 3
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177 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

If you like/love your name but want to incorporate his, then hyphenate! If you hate his then maybe just keep yours. If you hate yours then just take his.

I hate my last name and FI’s last name so we are choosing a completely different name and adding our old last names to our middle names.

I know some people think this is crazy but if you heard our difficult-to-spell-and-pronounce-not-to-mention-long last names you’d understand haha

Post # 4
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177 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

And ask him if he WANTS you to take/hyphenate your name! Or if he doesn’t care either way

Post # 5
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3053 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I’m changing! I can’t stand my last name & like my SO’s much better. If I didn’t hate mine, I would think about hyphenating but only bc we’re not having children. I never wanted to be a hyphenated last name child for some reason lol

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i got rid of my middle name and put my ex’s last name in place of it ( have kids so i had to have their  lastname somewhere in my name. and took my new hubbys name for last name… it took me 7 months to actually switch everything over. pain in the butt)

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I keep flipping back and forth on this one. On the one hand, I’m very attached to my name – I’m very close with my family, and would like maintain the identification with my family for myself and my future children. Also, fiance’s parents are very possessive of me even before the wedding, and I genuinely worry that they day of the wedding they will believe they “own” me.

But on the other hand, fiance wants me to take his surname, and I would want to have the same surname as our future children.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@GoodL:  I’m actually thinking I may just leave my name as it is for a year or so after the wedding, or even when we have children, then see if I want to change it. I love my fiance, but I’m very weirded out at the thought of becoming his wife, part of his family, and losing my name in one day. If nothing else, it may help keep his family’s hands off me for a few more months!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I love my last but I am going to FI’s name because I want to have the same last name as my kids and both our names are long so hyphenating would suck.  I’m also kind of traditional so I like the idea of having that extra thing connecting me to my man.

Post # 12
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1074 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’ve decided to make my maiden name my middle name! That way I get to keep it, yet have the same last name as my hubby and (future) children! 🙂

Post # 13
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2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

i’ll keep mine, I like it, and it’s part of who i am

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

I kept my maiden name for a year. It didnt bother my husband at all…said that i was still his wife. However, it really bothered my parents and gparents. Of course its a generational thing that they dont understand. So i changed it….partially cuz of my parents…but mostly because ppl didnt think we were married…they thought we were common law or long term bf/gf…which is fine for others (i dont judge). Hyphenate it if you are not sure.

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