Changing your last name

posted 3 years ago in Traditions
  • poll: Will you take your husband's last name?
    Yes - legally : (201 votes)
    74 %
    No - keeping maiden name : (42 votes)
    16 %
    Hyphenating our names : (13 votes)
    5 %
    Yes - unofficially changing it but legally keeping maiden name : (14 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    885 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I’m keeping my name because it is awesome, and a big part of my identity (I get called by my last name, or a portion of my last name on a regular basis).  Plus people have a hard time pronouncing my FI’s name which I find really annoying.

    Post # 4
    Member
    693 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We both hyphenated.  It’s been almost two years and its been great.

    Post # 5
    Member
    6028 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I’m taking his last name and dropping my maiden name. Dropping the maiden name isn’t the norm around here but I like the way my first and middle name sound together and I think having 2 lasts names just sounds silly…unless they’re hyphenated

    Post # 6
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    8426 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I am took my husband’s last name because my maiden name was incredibly difficult to spell.  Plus, I like the way my first name sounds with his last name.

    Post # 7
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    1175 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @mscuppycake:  I will be taking his name, mostly because its the traditional thing to do.  We did talk about hyphenating our names, but I like his last name better than mine.

    Post # 8
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    2661 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I’m taking his name, but I’m also keeping my maiden name as a middle name. I won’t be dropping my current middle name though, I plan to have two middle names. I like how my full name sounds, so I want to keep it all. Also, there is no one to carry on my last name–all of my uncles had daughters 🙁

    I plan to take his name because my mom kept her maiden name, and as a kid I always felt awkward having to say “no it’s my mom, she kept her name.” I know it’s more common now, but I would just like to share a name with my husband and children.

    I don’t want to hyphenate because then my name will be crazy long. I also don’t want to ask my FI to change his name, because he’s a Junior, and I know that’s important to him.

    Post # 9
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    1160 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @melisandescott:  I love this. I wish my DH was a bit more open to it…

    I kept my name, no regrets.  Beyond the fact that it’s part of my identity, it’s really important to my career that I keep my name (I’m published under it).

    Post # 10
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    442 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    Definitely keeping my name…my mother did, my grandmother did (!), my sister-in-law did and both aunts did. I grew up thinking that was the normal way to do things!

    Post # 11
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    3813 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    I took his name and pretty much just finished all the legal stuff required.  It’s important to him and not as important to me, so I don’t mind!

    Post # 12
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    3722 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I took DH’s name. My maiden name is my dad’s name (like most of us). He’s an ass, I haven’t spoken to him since I was 3, and he has had no involvement in my life (thankfully!). So i couldn’t wait to get rid of his last name and actually have the name of a man I like 🙂

    Post # 13
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    979 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    We both kept our names (though Dh offered to take mine). Not sure what we’ll do with kids, either both our last names or his last name and mine as a 2nd middle name.

    We’ve been married three years and I’m so glad I kept my name!

    Post # 14
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    1179 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Keeping my name! I don’t feel that a name makes a family, and he loves that I don’t want to change it. Win-win. 🙂

    I feel this way partly because I have a lot of examples in my family of women keeping their names, and partly because it’s common in my career field. Under other circumstances maybe I would feel more pressured to change my name, but I see no reason to go through the trouble.

    Post # 15
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    1179 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @fiver:  That’s what my parents did with us kids — my mom kept her name, and we both have her last name as our middle name, and dad’s last name. I have always loved that both of their identities are represented in our names!

    Post # 16
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    4513 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I’m dropping my last name and taking his. There is no possible way I would hyphenate. My first name is Alexandra and my last name is relatively long already. That would be an absolute ridiculously long name. I also want to keep my middle name the way it is and not replace it with my maiden name.

    My in laws were surprised to hear that I was taking their name. I’m really independent so they assumed I’d be against the idea, but I am really traditional in some senses and that was one issue I never thought about twice – I always knew I’d take his name.

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