Post # 1
So I’m curious. I get a mixed bag of responses when asking my peers, but I wonder what the “trend” is these days.
Are you changing your name, hyphenating, keeping your own, etc.?
And if you’d like to share – why are you choosing that route?
Post # 3
I’m keeping my name because it is awesome, and a big part of my identity (I get called by my last name, or a portion of my last name on a regular basis). Plus people have a hard time pronouncing my FI’s name which I find really annoying.
Post # 4
We both hyphenated. It’s been almost two years and its been great.
Post # 5
I’m taking his last name and dropping my maiden name. Dropping the maiden name isn’t the norm around here but I like the way my first and middle name sound together and I think having 2 lasts names just sounds silly…unless they’re hyphenated
Post # 6
I am took my husband’s last name because my maiden name was incredibly difficult to spell. Plus, I like the way my first name sounds with his last name.
Post # 7
@mscuppycake: I will be taking his name, mostly because its the traditional thing to do. We did talk about hyphenating our names, but I like his last name better than mine.
Post # 8
I’m taking his name, but I’m also keeping my maiden name as a middle name. I won’t be dropping my current middle name though, I plan to have two middle names. I like how my full name sounds, so I want to keep it all. Also, there is no one to carry on my last name–all of my uncles had daughters 🙁
I plan to take his name because my mom kept her maiden name, and as a kid I always felt awkward having to say “no it’s my mom, she kept her name.” I know it’s more common now, but I would just like to share a name with my husband and children.
I don’t want to hyphenate because then my name will be crazy long. I also don’t want to ask my FI to change his name, because he’s a Junior, and I know that’s important to him.
Post # 9
@melisandescott: I love this. I wish my DH was a bit more open to it…
I kept my name, no regrets. Beyond the fact that it’s part of my identity, it’s really important to my career that I keep my name (I’m published under it).
Post # 10
Definitely keeping my name…my mother did, my grandmother did (!), my sister-in-law did and both aunts did. I grew up thinking that was the normal way to do things!
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
I took his name and pretty much just finished all the legal stuff required. It’s important to him and not as important to me, so I don’t mind!
Post # 12
I took DH’s name. My maiden name is my dad’s name (like most of us). He’s an ass, I haven’t spoken to him since I was 3, and he has had no involvement in my life (thankfully!). So i couldn’t wait to get rid of his last name and actually have the name of a man I like 🙂
Post # 13
We both kept our names (though Dh offered to take mine). Not sure what we’ll do with kids, either both our last names or his last name and mine as a 2nd middle name.
We’ve been married three years and I’m so glad I kept my name!
Post # 14
Keeping my name! I don’t feel that a name makes a family, and he loves that I don’t want to change it. Win-win. 🙂
I feel this way partly because I have a lot of examples in my family of women keeping their names, and partly because it’s common in my career field. Under other circumstances maybe I would feel more pressured to change my name, but I see no reason to go through the trouble.
Post # 15
@fiver: That’s what my parents did with us kids — my mom kept her name, and we both have her last name as our middle name, and dad’s last name. I have always loved that both of their identities are represented in our names!
Post # 16
I’m dropping my last name and taking his. There is no possible way I would hyphenate. My first name is Alexandra and my last name is relatively long already. That would be an absolute ridiculously long name. I also want to keep my middle name the way it is and not replace it with my maiden name.
My in laws were surprised to hear that I was taking their name. I’m really independent so they assumed I’d be against the idea, but I am really traditional in some senses and that was one issue I never thought about twice – I always knew I’d take his name.