Changing Your Name After Marriage?

posted 3 years ago in Names
  • poll: Changing Last Name After Wedding?
    Yes : (137 votes)
    63 %
    No : (45 votes)
    21 %
    Still Undecided : (18 votes)
    8 %
    Hyphenating? : (16 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1167 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @sheila.sierra.37:  I honestly never considered not changing it, Im so excited to be forever tied with my man my name! 🙂

    Also, our names would sound really stupid hyphonated haha. The only hyponated name  ever heard that I liked was my teacher Mrs Scott-Brown. 🙂

    Post # 4
    Member
    11300 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I changed it to my husband’s name. Our of all of my relationships (haha, all three of them), he’s the only one I would have done that for. I love his family, my name sounds good with the last name, and I don’t really have any emotional ties to my maiden name.

    Post # 5
    Member
    7664 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    I kept mine. I reasoned that if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.

    Post # 6
    Member
    1670 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I’m changing mine, but mostly so I can be Middle Maiden NewLast – I go by my middle name, and my first name is traditionally male and confuses people. Also I can’t wait to take his last name! I love my last name too, and that’s why I’m moving it to my middle name.

    Post # 7
    Member
    1355 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church

    Yes, I’m changing my last name to his and making my maiden name my middle name.

    Post # 8
    Member
    137 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    i should be getting my name change certiifcate in the mail any day now.  I was excited to change my name actually, especially since we are kind of old fashioned and traditional in that respect.  And since I have started this new journey with my husband, changing my name just made it seem more official.  

    Also, just to keep in mind as well, for the future with children etc., it is alot easier to have your names the same re; schooling etc., because with the divorce rate so high now a days, having a different name from your spouse might pose stereotypical views that you might be divorced. 

    But it is your own decision in the end and what ever makes everyone happy.  And also for me personally my name would be super long if I hyphonated it!!!lol


    Good luck

    Post # 9
    Member
    9532 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’m keeping my name. He’s considering taking my last name but he’s still on the fence.

    Post # 10
    Member
    6506 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I changed my last name to DH’s. I personally would never hyphenate my name- too much of a moith full! 

    Post # 11
    Member
    1640 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - Rustic mill, historical site

    I voted no, because my province is very stupid and you just cannot legally change your name here (unless you have a valid reason, like, you’re from another country and your name is either unpronouncable or means something derogatory in our language, or you have the same name as a known killer, or whatever, othrwise, no dice).

    That being said, IF we ever move away from this idiotic province, the first thing I will do is change my name.   Not that I have a problem with my own, but it would be a honour for me to take on my husband’s last name.   I don’t like not having the same name as our son.

    Post # 12
    Member
    1640 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - Rustic mill, historical site

    That being said, I will socially use his last name, but all official documents (passport, drivers license, bank statements, etc) will be in my maiden name  :/

    Post # 13
    Member
    8425 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I changed my name and I love it.  My maiden name was just too hard to spell.

    Post # 14
    Member
    1988 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I decided to hyphenate when I was about 10 years old – no joke! I still stand by my decision. My relationship with my parents is wonderful and I want to keep my maiden name to honour them but also add my future husband’s last name to honour him. I don’t want to lose my maiden name completely because it’s a part of my identity, I would not feel like myself without it. When my SO and I first started discussing marriage not wanting to change my last name completely was one of the first things I told him about and he understood completely. Whew! 

    Post # 15
    Member
    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @sheila.sierra.37:  We both have my husband’s name. I am traditional that way and it makes me feel like more of a family unit.

    Post # 16
    Member
    10999 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I chose the formal, traditional (in the US) name change of First Maiden HisLast.  (I dropped my given middle name.)

    I love my new name.  It avoids the complexities of hyphenation, allows me to have the same last name as my DH and stepchildren (and any potential future children), and allows me properly to use the honorific “Mrs.,” as well as Ms. — something someone who hyphenates her name (unless her DH also hyphenates his) or someone who keeps her maiden name cannot properly use. 

    Note: I recently discovered in trying to assist another bee that, if you reside in Ohio, Pennsylvania, Washington, California, New York, or New Jersey, you currently need to pursue a legal process outside of having a marriage certificiate to take your maiden name as your new, legal middle name.

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