Post # 1
Can anyone advise me as to which NY documents need to be changed if you’re thinking of either hyphanating or taking your husbands name. I got married in Austin, TX and my marriage license has my maiden name (told that I can change it later) but we live and work in NY.
driver’s license, passport, social security card, credit cards (anything else I’m missing)
In terms of the ss card, does that necessarily need to be changed?
what has everyones experience been like with the process? I’ve been married for 2 months now and quite honestly have been lazy because I dont want to wait on long lines or go through too much paper work.
Thanks in advance – Karen
Post # 3
I’m just avoiding all the paperwork and sticking with my own name. Plus, my fiance’s last name is McDonald and my first name is Lani. There is a very famous canadian hockey player named Lanny McDonald. I’m not dealing with that for the rest of my life. Mostly I like my last name and I feel it’s who I am. I might consider changing it after I get married, but we’ll see.
Post # 4
i’m no expert, but i’m pretty sure you have to change your social security card to change the rest. i think you make that change, then take the new card to all the other places.
be careful about making everything consistent. i have friends who had problems getting on planes b/c the name on their tickets was different from their id (their credit cards and id had different names), so it’s best to pick one name and stick with it for everything official.
mrs bluebell and mrs onion have posted about their experiences changing their name:
Post # 5
This process is making me friggin’ nuts, and causing me to pull my hair out!
I started bass-ackwards and my SSN card is one of the last things I’m doing. In a way, this method is good b/c it’s really forcing me to go do this stuff (for instance, I stupidly have changed my driver’s insurance to the married name, but haven’t gotten off my lazy butt to go to 1) the credit union to change my account there — they technically own the car and then 2) the DMV to change the car registration. So I’m crossing my fingers nothing bad happens right now while my license and insurance say one name, and the registration says another! Yipes!
I also changed all my HR stuff before changing the SSN, so that’s pro’lly gonna mess me up for taxes if I don’t take care of it soon. Argh!
Oh, it doesn’t help that each state is different as far as the driver’s license, etc. stuff. From my experience, as you can see, you don’t have to change your SSN card first, but it might be a better idea…
And my latest gripe is credit card companies who will not accomodate my new TWO middle initials b/c as joynejc points out, now I’m not exactly consistent on all my documents. Grr…Good luck to all who are undergoing this process!