- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
I desperately need your thoughts! A little background: My wedding date is set, although nothing has been booked yet (eep!). I just settled on a venue this past weekend, picked a date, but have not officially booked it until I do the tasting. I was getting ready to order some Save the Dates, and then it happened…a horrible scheduling snafu!
My aunt and uncle who I am very close with learned of my date last night at dinner. When I excitedly shared my date, their faces dropped, my aunt teared up, and dinner got really awkward. Turns out, my wedding date is their best friend’s kid’s date. They have been involved with the kid’s wedding planning and are extremely obligated to attend. There were murmurs from my aunt’s mother about how family came first. There were looks between my aunt of uncle of utter deflation. It was a horrible moment. Of course, then I got really upset. My aunt got a knot in her stomach, I’m cracking jokes about them “never getting an invitation.” My aunt and uncle will have to make a choice: family or friend?
My Fiance and I are super laid back and understand if people have prior obligations. However, my family is not so understanding. I know if my aunt and uncle miss our wedding, it will be WWIII, and my wedding date will be forever known as the date that my aunt and uncle chose a friend over family. If they do attend my wedding, they will feel so horribly bad that they won’t even have a good time.
Here’s my dilimena bees…do I change the date so my aunt & uncle can attend my wedding in peace? Is that weird? I just want our celebration to be a good time and don’t want anything to detract from that! Please let me hear your thoughts!