Post # 1
So I realize this question may sound absolutely ridiculous, but I’m having a major internal debate about changing my name. Mostly I don’t want to, but in some instances – I feel it would be easier or make more sense.
If I hyphenate my name, can I ask certain companies or even official documentation to use just one (at my discretion)?
If not, are there any ladies out there who have managed to somehow come up with a “Happy medium” between keeping and changing?
Post # 3
@mscuppycake: I’m not married yet, but I go by my middle name. Anywhere where you have to provide legal documents with your info, they will use your legally given name. I don’t get a choice on what first name to go by at my bank, job, doctors office, etc. It’s actually quite annoying lol So- i would guess last name would be even more permanent & most places will not let you choose what to go by.
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@mscuppycake: You can introduce and call yourself by whatever name you want. But when you are filling out legal documents and forms you have to use your legal name (i.e. the one registered with Social Security.) If you hyphenate your name with SS then you have to use the entire hyphenated name on legal documents and forms. That is why I chose not to hyphenate.
At work I go by both my maiden name and my husband’s name together but some people only call me by my maiden name and I don’t correct them. At home and in social situations I go by my husband’s name alone. Currently, my legal documents still only have my birth/maiden name. After I file my taxes next year I will apply for my name change with Social Security and I plan to make my maiden name my middle name and my last name my husband’s name. But I still plan on going by both names in different situations.
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
I don’t have any advice, but I feel you! I am ambivalent about changing my name and doing it to make my FI happy. I like the idea of using my maiden name as my middle name, sort of pretend hyphenated, but knowing me, I’ll be too lazy and will just use my new last name.
Post # 6
I am likely going to change my middle name to my maiden name, and then take my FI’s last name.
So if I am currently Jane Marie Doe, then I will change to Jane Doe Smith.
Post # 7
@mscuppycake: I’m planning to do like @bowsergirl said and make my maiden name my middle name and take on my SO’s last name.
Post # 8
In Dutch and Danish culture it’s common to legally keep your name, and then socially to use your husbands. That’s what I plan on doing.
Post # 9
I am not changing my name, and will still introduce myself as my last name. But if people want to call me Mrs HisLastName (like if we have kids their teachers or friends etc) I won’t care.
Post # 10
Where are you in Canada? In Ontario you can assume your DH’s last name without doing an official name change. It doesn’t change your birth certificate like a legal name change does. You take in a copy of your marriage certificate (get multiples and carry copies in your purse, that way you have them when you need them, a tip from my recently married friend) and that’s all you need to change your name on your DL, at the bank, etc.
I’m only going to assume his name. I see no point in changing my birth certificate. I was born with my maiden name, not my married name.
My sister will be using her married name socially but her maiden name professionally. By assuming you’re able to do this.
Post # 11
Larger companies and official paperwork tends to only use your legal name. I toyed with the idea of keeping my maiden name, but I just flat out changed my last name to my husbands. I am happy in the long run to do so. I feel like it has been an important step in my life.
Post # 12
I’m battling this decision. I think I’m going to add FI’s last name actually before mine so it’s First Middle HisLast MyLast.
Most employers will let you use whatever name you want. I know credit card companies will, too. Bc it still matches your ID regardless. My grandmother has credit cards in her maiden name still.
If you’re worried about businesses, you can do a DBA (doing business as). I’ll be DBA as first mylast. If FI and I ever own a business together, I’d rather the general public not know we’re married and try to bargain or whatever.