(Closed) Charcoal drawing of parents deceased dog. Bad idea?

posted 7 years ago in Holidays
  • poll: Should I get the drawing done for my parents?
    Yes, I think its a great idea. : (9 votes)
    33 %
    No, I think it will cause unnecessary grief. : (15 votes)
    56 %
    Other (not sure what other options there are but I thought I'd add this in anyway) : (3 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
    3576 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Hmmm, well, my dog, bosco died unexpectedly in 2008.  And we’ve adopted two dogs since but my husband always makes sure that he includes Bosco and his memory into special days for me.  We do cards from our ‘boys’ to each other on bdays and holidays and he always has one ‘signed’ by Bosco.  For our wedding, our cake topper was originally our 2 boys and cat.  On our wedding day, once we got to reception site, he took me in there alone for a gift.  The person who created our cake topper, also created one of Bosco with a halo and angel wings to put with the other 3. 

    The reason I tell you this is I cry each and every time he does something like that for me.  But it also helps me to continue the memory of my Bosco.  It makes me sad but only for a moment.  I think that this is such a fresh wound for your parents and yes, they will cry and probably be sad for a moment but I think it’s a great gift.  It will help Bernie’s memory and legacy live on for them.  I would do it.  But that’s my opinion.  And what a nice gesture on your part!

    Post # 4
    6598 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think it’s a great idea. However, I think it may be a bit too soon. I’m not sure if he is a happy memory yet or if he is still a sad tragic accident, ya know?

    Post # 5
    6394 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think it’s a great idea for next Christmas, but this might be too soon, especially since they haven’t had time to get a new pet and bond with him/her. I would give it time, it doesn’t sound like they’re ready to look at a picture of him and remember the good times yet.

    Post # 6
    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    It’s awfully soon. I don’t think I’d want a drawing of my cat if something happened to him for the wall. I have photos. Stuff like this takes time.

    Post # 7
    1391 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Ah I remember that story 🙁 I think it is a REALLY good idea. My parents have something kind of like that for their dog, but he passed of old age. I wonder if maybe it is too fresh a wound yet given the circumstances? I do like the idea though.

    Post # 8
    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’ll be honest – having lost multiple pets during my 23 years of life, this is not something that I would want, especially this soon following a tragic accident.  I have photos and happy memories of all my pets (both past and present) but I wouldn’t want to hang a drawing of one of them on a wall.

    Post # 9
    266 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I agree with most of the others. If you’re going to do it, it’s definately too soon. I personally wouldn’t give that over Christmas. Maybe wait a few more months.

    I think it’s a really nice idea, though. I’d love a gift like that. But not quite so soon, and not on Christmas.

    Post # 10
    1740 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    I did this about 6 years ago for my BF’s sister and her husband after their 13 year old puppy had to to be put down.  She was old and very arthritic, and it had gotten to where she couldn’t walk very well, and they had her in her box for us to all say goodbye that Thanksgiving.  I’d been working on a drwing of her off and on for about a year (I get frustrated and stop projects for a while), but felt bad I hadn’t given it to them before she died, so I doubled up my efforts, and in additon to their normal gifts, framed and wrapped it, telling them as they opened it I was sorry if it upset them, but I’d loved the puppy, too, as her primary dog-sitter.  My BF’s sister cried, but they put it up right away, and even after getting their new furbaby a year later, had it up.

    Tears aren’t always bad, and it might help them with their greiving to know that they’re not the only ones to miss the dog, and also to have something nice and heartfelt form you to remember her by, other than a tragic accident.

    If you’re worried it’s too soon, then that just gives you more time to make sure you’re happy with the drawing, and maybe in 6 months you can give it to them, if you don’t want to wait for next Christmas.

    Post # 12
    4137 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    i think it’s a good idea, but right now is too soon. i would wait until next christmas.

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