Post # 1
My FIL and I got into a heated “discussion” while we were briefly visiting my IL’s during Thanksgiving. I brushed it off at the time because FIL is difficult (to say the very least), and I was actually happy to get the opportunity to voice my feelings.
Somehow we were talking about panhandling and people who are homeless and have pets with them as they hold up their “need food” signs and how that always particularly tugs at my heart and I am more likely to give a couple of dollars or, better yet, a couple cans of dog food.
It spiraled into FIL (who gets really intense and vocal) saying something along the lines of the advertising on TV about children with cancer and how could someone NOT donate money to children’s hospitals after seeing that? Well, I said “I would give money to the SPCA or Humane Society every single day over children’s hospitals” and he just about lost his mind and basically told me I was a terrible person for wanting to monetarily help animals of children. I explained to him that, because of governmental intiatives, children will always have means of care–they’re not going to get completely lost in the system…even if they are in foster care/wards of the state/etc. That there are things in place that offer care to children and help them not go hungry. This is on a federal and state level. I explained to him…not government-instated law or act is going to do the same for animals. That there are entire children’s hospitals that operate STATE OF THE ART technology on SOLELY donated money and grants. There is no such thing (as far as I know) for animals. Why would I be a bad person for instead choosing to donate money to animals, who are helpless without humans anyway? Why is it bad for me to be in the minority of people (I’m sure if you asked 100 people, more than 50% would rather donate to kids) who wanted to help aniimals over kids…if it weren’t for people like me, there’d be a lot more euthanized, homeless, starving, abused, and dead animals.
This just couldn’t process in his brain and he was utterly disgusted with me and I was kind of like WTF.
So–if you met or already knew someone with the same opinion as me…do you think they are a bad person? Or do you kind of get where they are coming from?
Post # 3
I would split it in half and donate to both causes. I dont think it has to be an either/or situation.
Post # 4
@ThreeMeers: I definitely don’t think it’s an either or situtation either…I mostly am just curious if there are others who feel the same as I do (for me, it probably is an either/or situation, and I would give to one instead of the other rather than split my donation), or if people consider people like me crazy/awful! I guess for the purposes of my post I was sort of posing a hypothetical “either/or” situtation…because I’m sure if I added “I’d give to both” most people would choose that, which I totally get!
Post # 5
We donate monthly to the Humane Society and a local rescue group here in Northern California. My immediate loyalty goes to animals and I make no apologies for it. I also find myself very cynical of people focused charities knowing what I know about certain non-profits etc.
Obviously there are those that feel differently and they can donate to the human related causes. Every group has to have their “target” audience so to speak.
Post # 6
@Treejewel19: That’s interesting/good to hear! I am like you, my loyalties lie the same way. We’ve often planned that when DH and I have discretionary income after he’s done with medical school, we’d like to donate to/support larger sums of money to causes that are important to both of us: I’d like to give lots of money to large/breed or Labrador rescues in our state, and DH would like to donate money to heart disease research or the AHA. We plan to pick one each and support them greatly.
Post # 7
I don’t like to donate money to large organizations that spend so much on overhead, admin, advertising, etc. I would give to smaller local charities where I know my money will be of good use. I would lean toward “human” charities, but that is partly because I already know of a children’s home I’ve volunteered at that I would donate to in a heartbeat if I had the means.
Post # 8
I give to children’s hospitals because I believe very strongly in what they do. I had surgery at a children’s hospital as a baby, and it’s very important to me to remember that and give back for the help I received.
This doesn’t mean I don’t support the work of organizations like the SPCA, but I’m not loaded, and have to choose where my money goes, unfortunately.
Frankly, I find it pretty insulting that you think people who donate to charities for people must do it out of some sort of “humans first, animals second” mentality.
Post # 9
@cb336: sorry to have insulted you. I don’t think that either choice means that there is a “this first, that second” mentality, but that’s why i posed the question. If you only have $100, and had to choose, which would you? That doesn’t mean you wouldn’t donate to both if you could, but if you had to pick, which one would you?
Much like my choice doesn’t mean that I a) hate children, b) think children should have diseases (like my FIL thinks), your choice doesn’t lead me to believe you hate animals and don’t think they are important enough to help. Just, simply, that you have to choose where your money goes, and you choose kids for personal and justifiable reasons.
Post # 10
In lieu of favors we are giving a large dontation to our favorite charity, All Heart Pet Rescue. That is where out furry baby is from.
I am also a veterinary technician, animals are very, very close to my heart.
I feel more strongly about animal charities.
Post # 11
I give $ to animal charities. Like you, I figure lots of people help kids already, I’ll give to animals who have much fewer supporters.
Post # 12
Most of the charities I donate to are for animals (Best Friends Animal Sanctuary, Alley Cat Allies, etc.) but I do donate to the Paralyzed Veterans of America as well.
Post # 13
Our wedding favor donation was to animal charities. They were both small ones that truly have to watch every dollar, vs larger ones like HSUS or ASPCA that have a larger staff and marketing budget.
However, DH gives money to his parents regularly to donate to the needy in their home country (a war-torn, third world country). Further, usually when I do charity events, such as runs and fundraisers, they’re about 3/4 people organizations and 1/4 animal organizations. When I do have money to give and am intentionally picking and choosing, I do tend to pick animal charities.
Post # 14
I would donate to a food bank first (it makes me so sad that not everyone has enough to eat), but I totally wouldn’t judge anyway for their choice of charity! Well, as long as it’s not to a hate group or anything. But a lot of people/animals need help, and we’re all burdened to help different groups.
Post # 15
I love pets, but would choose children. My dad is similar to your FIL OP, he feels, “why would you feed a pet when you can feed a person?”
Post # 16
I’d absolutely donate to the animal charity because they really need it most in my opinion. There are foster children that I’m sure would love to have homes and they deserve that, but they aren’t being gassed or put to sleep by the thousands every day. Donating my money to animal organizations helps them put the necessasry funds forward to help educate the community about the importance of spaying, keeping pets vaccinated, etc.
People who choose to donate to animal organizations over children’s organization are not bad people at all! OP don’t feel bad!