Post # 1
In lieu of favors we have decided to make a donation to a charity that means a lot to my family, does anyone have any experience with this? Im not sure how much is appropriate to donate. For example, is it a per guest amount? If so, how long in advance can you let the charity know??
Post # 3
I was going to have our guests give to charity instead of us but I got a lot of flack from family about it just because they felt that was something "older" people did who already had everthing they needed.
I have been to a wedding though where the favors were donations to a cancer society because the bride lost her first husband to cancer. No one was disappointed- in fact, most people shed a couple tears (I know I did).
If it’s a cause that is important to you and your Mr. I see no reason why it wouldn’t go over well. You would just take the amount you would normally spend per favor (like $5) and multiply it by the number of guests- you don’t tell the guests the amount, you just let them know that a donation has been made in their name for the X charity.
Also, there is a charity registry called the "I do Foundation".
Post # 4
We’re doing the same thing. We are intending to make a donation to the National Park Service, which ties in line with the sort of "theme" of our wedding and our lives. He proposed while we were hiking the Continental Divide. We are both advocates and want the NPS to be around forever for generations to come to enjoy and explore.
We’re just picking a number that we think would be a healthy donation and then inlcuding a note in our seating cards (which happen to be Nat’l Park postcards) that "in lieu of a favor, a donation has been made to the National Park Service."
I don’t think there is a formula, I think you should just pick what you’d like to donate and do that. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been to a wedding that I’ve left the favor behind, I think in most cases it’s a waste and people like the idea of giving.
Post # 5
From my experience, there isn’t any formula. You can set one, based on your budget, but you can also make it economical. I settled on an amount I thought could do the most good that was comparable to what I would have spent on a tangible, throw away favor (which can easily range from $2 to 6 per person). The gesture and meaning behind it are more important than the amount …. And in case you’re looking for a site that makes this easy to do, I found one @ justgive.org. They don’t have minimums for the amount you can donate and leave that up to you.
Post # 6
My friend took the amount she would have spent on favors/person and donated it to their fav charities. As a guest, it didn’t speak to me- not like the story Josalyn described about the significance behind the donation. (mostly because my friend donated to the surfriders association and I don’t have any history with that)
We wanted to try to have our guests donate to our fav charities in lieu of gifts (and it would mean something to each of the guests… like the SPCA)- but we too received a lot of grief from our immediate friends who wanted to give us gifts not donate. :o/