(Closed) Charity registries

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Be aware that many people consider them rude. Guests want to buy gifts for you, not for a charity. If you don’t have a registry of things you want for yourselves, you will recive gifts you don’t want and cannot return.

If you don’t need or want household items, register for fun stuff you’d enjoy. Camping gear, bbq essentials, board games, movies, books, etc.

Post # 5
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Helper bee

What about setting up a honeymoon fund? I have seen some online registries that you can register for different things for your honeymoon (ex airline tickets, dinners out, scuba lessons).  To incorporate the charities (which I think is a fantastic idea) you could substitute favors for charitable donations.  I plan on setting a token on each guests place setting with a note explaining that in place of favors we will be making a charitable donation in their honor and to please vote in the different marked containers for what charity they want their token to go towards. 

Post # 7
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1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Asking for cash of any kind, be it gift cards, charity donations, paying for any part of the honeymoon is considered rude, despit the fact that many people in this age do not care, and most folks will be offended by it.

If you do give a charity donation (which is never a favor for your guests even when something else is added to it for them to take home), give one because you would anyway even if it was not for a one time donation due to a wedding, etc. If you do give money, do not make any mention whatsoever to your guests since it is private between you and the charity and your guests do not want or need to know, since it comes across as “look what we did” if you do.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

While some people may find the charity idea rude, I think of it as, “These are my family and friends, not strangers.  If they know me, then this won’t surprise them.” Everyone that I have run the charity favor by has thought it to be a great idea since most of them throw the favor away anyways (unless it is edible).  Do what you want. I wouldn’t feel like it is a “look at me” kind of gesture since it is my family and friends.  Would I hold up a sign all day for strangers tell them that I donate, no.  Friends and family though (at least mine) would not find us pretentious for donating to a charity as a favor, especially a charity that means a lot to you or your family.

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m pretty bummed about this post because I thought a charity registry was a wonderful way to help others…it never occured to me that it may be rude.  I guess we won’t do it, then.  How about donating some of the wedding money you get to your fav charity?

Post # 10
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687 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree with mannellal — if this is something that would surprise your guests (coming from you and your FH) then it’s probably going to seem rude BUT if this is something completely within character then they’ll understand how much it would mean to you.  I personally am very involved in charities (and even for for a non-profit) so I doubt my guests would think twice about donating in our honor.  ….The favor idea is awesome– check out this example, you can even shop for favors to give that encourage donations to the charity…

http://actionalz.org/act_weddings_landing.asp

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I wouldn’t consider a charity registry rude.  However, I personally would never “purchase” a gift from a charity registry.  I would just give cash and let the couple donate it if that were deemed the best use of the money.

Post # 12
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1079 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We added a bunch of donation options to our Amazon registry via the Universal Registry option. Several people have opted to donate, others have purchased from the material options. Besides household items we have theater tickets, custom framing, and restaurant gift certificates.

Post # 13
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458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

What if you asked everyone to bring a canned good? That way, they are doing something for charity but can also give you a gift if they want. I think you should list the charities with you r registry, but keep in mind people lovet to buy newlyweds gifts!

Post # 14
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104 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I don’t think they are rude at all and I intend to buy a gift from this for one of my friends getting married this fall (and a material gift too). 

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