Post # 1
I have a conundrum. A pretty big one in the grand scheme of wedding planning. My FI and I cannot, no matter how many pros and cons we list, decide between Charlotte and Charleston as a location for our wedding extravaganza!
We live in Charlotte, love Charlotte, it has been where our relationship flourished and where we got engaged. We have a lot of friends here, but not much family. I love the idea of having families and other out of towners come to “our city” to experience it. I even have thoughts of what we would do in the hotels for the OOT-ers bags etc.
….But, I’ve always dreamed of having my wedding on the beach/coast. I found an amazing venue in Charleston across the bridge with beautiful views of the harbor, but I cannot even begin to fathom how difficult it would be to plan a wedding from 4 hours away.
I need your help! Besides people who have been married in these two areas, how difficult is it to plan a sort-of destination wedding from another state?
Post # 3
You’re only 4 hours away! You can easily book appointments and go for the night and do a ton of your planning all in 1 weekend.
I think Charleston is beautiful, it’s my favorite city and visiting Charleston is the reason I am moving from NY!
You should have a house warming party another time to have all your family get together in the city you love so much!
Post # 4
I planned a Charleston wedding from 14 hours away, while it had some challenges it was not that difficult. I vote Charleston (obviously a little biased though).
Post # 5
You must be talking about Harborside East (the amazing venue across the bridge…)? That is where my daughter’s reception was last month. It IS amazing!
Have you gotten price quotes from some vendors in Charleston and in Charlotte? (Prices in Charleston may be a little higher, but I’m not sure.) Do you have an amazing place picked out if you decide on Charlotte?
Personally, I would choose Charlotte because that is where a lot of your friends are and, to me, it just seems easier to have everything where you live – but lots of brides do plan destination weddings in Charleston. (It is the #2 wedding destination behind Vegas, as you probably already know.)
If you do decide on Charleston, Harborside East really is amazing and has several nice places to hold your ceremony.
Post # 6
I live near Baltimore and planned my wedding for Georgetown, SC. If I can do it, you definitely can do it! Charleston is such a beautiful area and I definitely think you’d never regret it!
Post # 7
Well I don’t mean to offend your city, but I would be a lot more excited to visit Charleston (which might be the most beautiful city in the U.S.) than Charlotte. I was in Charleston for the fist time earlier this year and was enchanted.
I’m planning a wedding in another city that is a lot farther than 4 hours away (it’s not really driveable – would be like a 14 hour drive) and it hasn’t been hard. I did one trip to look at venues and the other decisions I’ve made through internet research. I don’t love the fact that I won’t get to do a hair and makeup trial until a few days before the wedding, and there will be some travel logistics (like getting my dress there) that will be annoying, but on the whole, it has not been terribly difficult. And with the distance you’re talking about you can easily make overnight trips to handle anything that might come up.
Post # 8
@eam253: We planned our North Carolina wedding from New Mexico, so 4 hours away should be very do-able. You can schedule to meet with multiple vendors over a few long weekends. For example we combined our NC mountain vacation with finding a venue. Then spent another 3 days in Asheville to find an officiant, cake, photographer. Almost everything else was done by e-mail.
If you have always dreamed of a beach wedding, that’s what you should go for! 🙂
Post # 9
Nothing can beat the charm of Charleston 🙂
Post # 10
Hello! I am from Charleston, born and raised, but I now live in charlotte. We have not decided on our venue, but I knew Charleston is where I want it to be, family still there, friends, he has family there, etc. It’s only about a 3.5 hour drive, if that, but I do live on the south side, so it is a quick easy trip for us, just went there last weekend! Price wise, there is not much difference, venues run very similar.
Post # 11
One of the saddest moments of my military life is that I had to leave Charleston =( It is the most beautiful place I have EVER been to. I don’t know who you could even compare it to Charlotte.
Post # 12
My fiance and I live in Charlotte and my first time going to Charleston was when he proposed! I fell in love with the city. With the exception of his sister and my parents all of our guests will be from out of town and I figured well..if everyone is traveling anyway why not have it be somewhere beautiful!
My fiance and I both love it here in Charlotte but the cities are just so different. Charlotte is so new compared to Charleston! Charleston truly has it all, we are having a historic downtown wedding but a beach wedding is such a pretty option that Charlotte couldnt offer! Charleston does make for some beautiful pictures and it sounds horrible but I don’t think we live in a very pretty city lol.
I have only had to come to the city three times so far. When I make my trips I try to book as much as possible in one visit. We don’t even spend the night when we make trips, we leave early and are usually back by 7. I so far came down for cake tasting, photographer and my ceremony/reception venue. Everything else (DJ, flowers, ceremony music, hair/makeup, rentals) have been done either by phone consultations or email! I just read weddingwire.com reviews or ask the Bees for advice on vendors 🙂
Also I got my dress here in Charlotte. My contracts have been sent to me either through email or the postal service. I am mailing my DJ one out tomorrow! To be honest we have made our last few trips to Charleston in about 3 hours…since we leave early Saturday morning there is hardly anyone on the road.
Post # 13
I would LOVE to plan a wedding in Charleston!! It would be sooooo lovely! Shouldn’t be that hard to plan. Right??
Post # 14
We went through the same dilema. We however had to have it in York, SC (right near Charlotte) since the grandparents are elderly. I think it’s more the feel you want. We could only find one plantation home around Charlotte that fit how we wanted Charleston to be (Hightower Hall). So if you want plantations and beaches, etc. go to Charleston because it’s really hard to find it in Charlotte.
However, if you want more upscale older homes & a fancier wedding, like in uptown, I would say Charlotte is the way to go. We really wanted old oak trees and the Charleston vibe so if we could have I would have definitely picked Charleston. But the place we had it was MORE than perfect for the Charleston vibe so I loved our wedding it just took us 5 months to find a venue haha!
PM if you need any help though, I think I still have all my venue files from both places!
Post # 15
Charleston was my choice as I narrowed it down between Asheville and Charleston. We are going with The Rice Mill and I’m happy that we chose Charleston. Charleston is such a beautiful place!!
Post # 16
I hope you pick Charlotte. Just from the wording you’ve used to describe it I think thats where your heart really is. I live in the midlands so i’m 2 hours away from both cities and travel to both often and they’re very different places. Charleston has a historic old world feel and Charlotte is younger and hipper… As far as accommodations go you may find Charlotte is more practical in that respect as well. And their is no shortage of activites in either city. It really just comes down to doing whats more practical for you and your budget (if their is one).
I’ve picked Charleston because its very similar to New Orleans, where i’m from. My fiance is from SC and we both live in the Midlands. I’ve only lived here a few years and have no family ties to SC. So I picked the place that felt most like home. We are doing a Carolina meets Louisiana theme. But i’m not into the deeply southern plantation style, doilies and mason jars thing.