- 3 years ago
So I’m on my second month of charting/TTC (charts can be seen here: http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/gogoanonon) and my husband and I got into a fight yesterday, about it. My CM was watery/egg-whitey, and I wanted to BD… and he didn’t. He just wasn’t in the mood.
This is kind of how the fight goes:
Him: “I thought we were just going to have fun for the first year and see how things go… but now you’re charting and becoming obsessed and letting these numbers consume you”
Me: Ok look, i’m 29 years old. I don’t have time to just “have fun for the first year.” Considering both my sister and mother have PCOS, I’m seeing this as the beginning of a VERY LONG process. The more data I have, the more I can give my doctor, in 6 months, when I’m still not pregnant.
Him: “SEE? You’re already expecting there to be problems, when absolutely nothing could be wrong!”
So… yeah. I’m trying not to put pressure on him. But the way I see it, is, if we want to be ACTIVELY TRYING, we need to try WHEN I’M OVULATING.
(….Which, is still up in the air. According to FF, I didn’t ovulate at all last month. And it’s saying I’m fertile right now, but there’s no temp shift. So I’m just fcking clueless.)
I hate that I stressed him out… I feel awful. I just want to try and do things ‘the right way’ so when I do go to the doctor, I can show her “look at all this data I have,” so things will be clearer, and hopefully move along faster.
How do you ladies BD with your significant other, during the “right time,” without stressing him out about it/making it feel like work? :\
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