(Closed) Chasing Around RSVPs Is So Frustrating!

posted 4 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
Hostess
13662 posts
Honey Beekeeper

You’re so right – being a bride forever changes how you handle your RSVPs in the future. Good luck tracking everyone down. I know it’s frustrating, but it’ll all be worth it. 🙂

Post # 4
Member
7090 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Ugh I am in this stage right now. We still have about 20 RSVPs (about 40 guests) to track down! It’s so frustrating. Some people that we have called say that “still don’t know” and “maybe.” We have given a final deadline and if they don’t let us know they will be written in as a no. FMIL seems to think we should just write them all in as a “yes” but I refuse to pay for people who can’t even RSVP becuase they might show up. Ugh sorry for the rant, but I’ve just been super frustrated with RSVPs lately as well!

Post # 6
Member
7090 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@WhiskeyEverAfter:  Yes, I guess it is lol. I hate the idea of wasting that much food (as well as money). I have also vowed to always return RSVPs right away. I admit that in the past I waited until the last minute but from now on it will be returned immediately!

Post # 7
Member
131 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@MrsBeck and @ WhiskeyEverAfter; I hear ya! My RSVP due date was May 7th because I had an extremely early final payment /food count due date from my reception site (I think because of the holiday weekend). I could not believe how many friends that I thought were very responsible just chose to wait forever or completely forgot! They all have to travel to my mini destination wedding, too!! AND some people gave me a hard time due to the early due date. I still gave them a month+ to respond! GRRRRR

 

I do have to say, that now that the final check has gone out, it feels pretty amazing to be done! I never want to re-live that week of hell, though! Good luck to you both as get the final numbers. Make sure to keep chocolate and wine on hand! 🙂

Post # 8
Member
131 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

oh also, @WhiskeyEverAfter  ; my mom had a hard time getting numbers for my shower as well. In fact, we had so little reply that we had to invite my fiance, his dad and bro, my bro and some other guys just to hit the minimum requirement for the restaurant!  I’m sure your bmaids will make it, they probably don’t realize (even after the texts and emails) that they need to reply. Either way, just take advantage of the nice day and having people (your aunt) shower you with presents and well wishes! 🙂 Its all about the bigger day coming up anyways.          

Post # 9
Member
396 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@WhiskeyEverAfter:  “I vow to immediately respond to RSVPs whenever I get invited to anything, for the rest of my life, only because I now know how frustrating it is when you have no idea whether someone is coming.”

 

^^This is exactly what I have been saying to my fiance the closer we get to the deadline with a ton left out. It’s so frustrating. 

 

 

 

Post # 10
Member
396 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MrsBeck:  Really? Why would you want to waste all that food if they don’t show up? I said the most I would go over was 5 “plates” just in case someone showed up or responded no and still showed up! But i’, rethinking that now. Deadline is June 1st. I plan to start tracking people down the Tuesday after. 

Post # 11
Member
9072 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m dreading it and I also vow to always send back my RSVPs on time from here on out Smile 

Post # 12
Member
438 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I had to ask my dad, brother and grandfather, FBIL what they wanted to eat since I hadn’t gotten their RSVP lol UGH

Post # 13
Member
687 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Oh my goodness…I feel you. I still have 36 guests that have not rsvp’d with a May 19th deadline!!! We did it super early for this reason…doesn’t make it any less frustrating though!!!

Post # 14
Member
687 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@HeLovesDogs:  haha I did too! They all said “oh well you know im coming”

Post # 15
Member
438 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@mrsalexander:  exactly! they seem to forget when you have a meal choice you need to know which one they want!

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