Post # 1
I already searched this on the bee and found some other threads and it seems like most people are saying this is totally normal but I just need a little support.
I have been engaged for about 8 months and have 4 left before the wedding. Lately, like 2-3 times a week, I have started dreaming about cheating on my FI. The dreams started with me flirting with my former teachers (wtf? I’ve been out of school for almost 10 years!) and have now revved all the way up to me full on kissing other people and being happy about it. (Nothing beyond kissing). In my dream, I remember thinking that I was engaged but that I was kissing someone else and I was happy.
Is this cold feet? Is this stress? Is this normal? Am I dream-cheating? What’s going on with me. I have no desires for this during my waking hours. I am very happy but this is FREAKING me out! Help!
Post # 3
@FutureMRS3lastnames: I wouldn’t worry about it. If, when fully awake, you’re 110% happy and ready to get married, and absolutely NO second thoughts, then I think it’s just your brain being silly.
Sometimes, if my last thought before going to sleep is something like “What was that brand of bologna that my ex-bf used to eat?” I’ll end up having a dream about him kissing me. Sooo random!! I think your brain just picks up 1 random thing you’ve seen/heard and runs with it. Relax 🙂
Post # 4
Your brain is a very strange organ that scientists haven’t fully investigated yet. There’s a good chance that we won’t for many more generations, only because of how complex and amazing it is.
That said, your dreams don’t have to mean anything. Sometimes it’s just how you’re digesting something, or sometimes your brain is just interested in making you go, “What the hell was that?”
There are a lot of people in the world who think that dreams are your subconcious, that they’re trying to tell you something, or inform you of something greater in the world.
Whether this is true or not remains to be seen, but I don’t believe a word of it, truthfully.
For example, yesterday my husband stayed home from work to take care of me. I was feeling very sick (Dizzy spells & lightheadedness and shakey all over), so we spent most of the day sleeping.
I had a dream he bought an inflatible toilet throne and set it next to the fireplace, and he was quite proud of his purchase.
He had a dream that I turned into a mushroom and lived in the basement (which we don’t have.)
I wouldn’t put much stock into your dreams; they’re just dreams.
I don’t think you’re having second thoughts, or it’s cold feet, or you’re nervous, I just think it’s just your brain weirding you out. I wouldn’t try to look for a hidding meaning in it.
Post # 5
Its normal. I have these dreams too, my husband has them, I have had friends tell me about theirs….. very common dream to have. They do not mean anything.
Post # 6
@Hyperventilate: An inflatable toilet throne sounds amazing.
Post # 7
Unless you’re thinking about cheating on your FI seriously, during your waking hours, I wouldn’t worry about it at all.
As @Hyperventilate: said “I wouldn’t put much stock into your dreams; they’re just dreams.“
Post # 8
@LadyMoriarty: I told him about it when he was making me lunch (I was sitting on the couch near our fireplace) He stopped mid step, a bowl of tomato soup in hand, looked thoughtful a moment and goes, “Even in your dreams, I am amazing.”
He’s been talking about it ever since. I’m pretty sure he’s going to end up finding how to get one of these now.
In my dreams, it was like those inflatable chairs that were popular years ago. Usually in neon colors. Only, this thing was a huge throne and clearly a toilet. It had a little air pump next to it to keep it inflated.
My husband was pretty impressed.
Post # 9
Totally normal, don’t even worry about it.
If you DO want to interpret them somehow they are possibly about “kissing your past goodbye” Your teachers were obviously a large part of your life and now that it is finally going to be over and the new part of your life (being married) is starting, perhaps you are letting it go.
Honestly though, it could just mean that you need to brush your teeth or something totally random.
Please don’t worry about it; if this is your biggest concern at the moment then you are flying with clear skies. 🙂