(Closed) Cheeering up my sad BF…?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
230 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

You’re so sweet!  Those all sound like really good ways to put a smile on his face.  It must be especially hard trying to find a more satisfying job in this economy, so I can understand why he may sometimes feel stuck in a rut.  Is he interested in any particular fields, or just completely undecided?  (I know that feeling!)  Does he have any hobbies that might translate into jobs (like web design, or photography)?  Could he volunteer or be an intern for a few hours a week in a company or agency he finds interesting to get a better idea of what a job there would be like?  Or maybe take some night classes in business or whatever else while still holding his normal job?  Of course, the big problem with all of these suggestions is that they all take a lot of time, which he may not have much of.  In which case, maybe the easiest thing to do is to keep searching around on the internet or passing the word to friends and family to keep their eyes open for any good job opensings.  If he does have time, one advantage of volunteering or classes or whatever is that even if it doesn’t lead directly to a new job, if he’s feeling down in the dumps it might be nice to try new things and meet new people.   Other than that, my only advice is to keep on being your supportive self–I’m sure he’s really happy to have your help and encouragement. 

Post # 5
3539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

addicted you are 😛

Is your job mainly at night?

I think having an activity would help? Like a membership to a golf club? would he like that? if he hasnt got one…

I think sometimes people get in a mode and its hard to switch the button on. I hate my job so its an effort to go to work in the morning and Im so tired when I come home.. so I can relate. Weekends are usually when Im at my happiest.

I just try to think positive and do anything that calms me or can relax me when I come home from work and to take my mind off it.

Post # 6
2859 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

I think that what you’re doing so far sounds great.

However, it’s important to realize that sometimes people get depressed and nothing you do can cheer them up. This is something that my fiance struggles with all the time; I suffer from depression and he feels totally helpless when I’m really down and he can’t do anything to help.

So, keep doing what you’re doing, but try not to get frustrated if it doesn’t work sometimes. Sometimes, being there for him is all you can do.

Good luck. He’s lucky to have you.

Post # 8
804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Wow! You’re SUCH a lovely girlfriend! My fella sometimes goes through fazes where he’s unhappy in his job – I know he doesn’t like his job 99% of the time but there are times when it becomes rather apparent that it’s affecting him more. What really helps with us is just talking about it. I know he feels so much better about it when we just chat about it. I just try to be supportive of him and let him know that whatver he wants to do – I’ll support him. We also discuss what he can do to make the situation better for himself and I think just knowing that he’s heard makes a big difference.

You’re already doing so much to let him know that you love him, so it’s probably up to him now to do something about it. It might also just be a timing thing too – I know that my fella wants to wait until he’s finished uni before changing some of his work situation so it might just be a case of riding it out. But with a lovely gf like you, I’m sure he’ll be fine!! 😉

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