Post # 1
I need some help. I know how full of wonderful ideas you all are!
My Boyfriend or Best Friend has been quite sad lately and I am trying to cheer him up! When I am home and on the weekends it is no trouble, he is a happy little munchkin. However, during the week when i am away for work, he absolutely hates his job at the moment and wants to leave, but doesnt really know what he wants to do, so doesnt know where to start.
Apart from being super supportive and helping him with updating his CV, researching new areas, relaxing when he gets home etc, does anyone have any suggestions of little things that help?
Some of the things i already do that make him smile:
– Little text messages with “i love you”
– Picture messages of me smiling
– Emails that i send late at night (when im working in the hotel) that he gets the next morning.
Sending a letter when i am away for a few days that he gets at home.
Thanks in advance Hive!
Post # 3
You’re so sweet! Those all sound like really good ways to put a smile on his face. It must be especially hard trying to find a more satisfying job in this economy, so I can understand why he may sometimes feel stuck in a rut. Is he interested in any particular fields, or just completely undecided? (I know that feeling!) Does he have any hobbies that might translate into jobs (like web design, or photography)? Could he volunteer or be an intern for a few hours a week in a company or agency he finds interesting to get a better idea of what a job there would be like? Or maybe take some night classes in business or whatever else while still holding his normal job? Of course, the big problem with all of these suggestions is that they all take a lot of time, which he may not have much of. In which case, maybe the easiest thing to do is to keep searching around on the internet or passing the word to friends and family to keep their eyes open for any good job opensings. If he does have time, one advantage of volunteering or classes or whatever is that even if it doesn’t lead directly to a new job, if he’s feeling down in the dumps it might be nice to try new things and meet new people. Other than that, my only advice is to keep on being your supportive self–I’m sure he’s really happy to have your help and encouragement.
Post # 4
Ok, so he already has 2 university degrees and his CA (equivalent of CPA in USA). He wants to work in finance/accounting but just not sure which area.
If it was up to him, he would do his best to become a semi-professional golfer!
He is having coffee with one of the partners in his firm soon hopefully, he is a family friend – that should help!
I just wish i could understand… but i absolutely LOVE my job, like beyond love! I find it so interesting and exciting! Mind you, it is 10pm and im still working… hmm??
Post # 5
addicted you are 😛
Is your job mainly at night?
I think having an activity would help? Like a membership to a golf club? would he like that? if he hasnt got one…
I think sometimes people get in a mode and its hard to switch the button on. I hate my job so its an effort to go to work in the morning and Im so tired when I come home.. so I can relate. Weekends are usually when Im at my happiest.
I just try to think positive and do anything that calms me or can relax me when I come home from work and to take my mind off it.
Post # 6
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I think that what you’re doing so far sounds great.
However, it’s important to realize that sometimes people get depressed and nothing you do can cheer them up. This is something that my fiance struggles with all the time; I suffer from depression and he feels totally helpless when I’m really down and he can’t do anything to help.
So, keep doing what you’re doing, but try not to get frustrated if it doesn’t work sometimes. Sometimes, being there for him is all you can do.
Good luck. He’s lucky to have you.
Post # 7
Thanks for the advice ladies!
Just being there for him and making his life easier is definately helping!
Also some little suprise post-it notes when i leave early in the morning like “dont forget to have your breakfast” stuck on the fridge, or “Love you” on the back of the door or the bathroom mirror!
Post # 8
Wow! You’re SUCH a lovely girlfriend! My fella sometimes goes through fazes where he’s unhappy in his job – I know he doesn’t like his job 99% of the time but there are times when it becomes rather apparent that it’s affecting him more. What really helps with us is just talking about it. I know he feels so much better about it when we just chat about it. I just try to be supportive of him and let him know that whatver he wants to do – I’ll support him. We also discuss what he can do to make the situation better for himself and I think just knowing that he’s heard makes a big difference.
You’re already doing so much to let him know that you love him, so it’s probably up to him now to do something about it. It might also just be a timing thing too – I know that my fella wants to wait until he’s finished uni before changing some of his work situation so it might just be a case of riding it out. But with a lovely gf like you, I’m sure he’ll be fine!! 😉