Post # 1
I wouldn’t want to make a point of this but I have no support in real life and DH is out of town and I’m feeling awful… I just need some kind words. I had an early miscarriage of our honeymoon baby in July and quickly got pregnant again this cycle. Yesterday I had a negative home pregnancy test and today my temps have dropped to pre-ovulation levels.
I feel like my body is somehow defective and the universe is cruelly teasing me. DH is trying to tell me I wasn’t pregnant this time anyway but I had a pretty clear BFP and my boobs are HUGE and sore and I felt the symptoms of last time. I’m embarassed to go to the doc to confirm it in case he tells me the same thing. I just want a baby. I can’t even imagine how difficult it must be for people with long standing fertility issues or who have suffered multiple losses, my heart goes out to you. I haven’t been dealing with this very long, but it hurts. Each time is the death of so many dreams. I want to be hopeful but I’m just sad and angry. I think I’m going to have to take a little break from TTC but I feel like that’s my most important purpose right now.
Post # 3
@bella128: (((hugs))) I am so so sorry for your losses. Take some time to heal emotionally and mentally. I don’t have any advice other than to just keep going and take it one day at a time. Hang in there.
Post # 4
I would definitely talk to your doctor about what’s going on! And I’m so, so sorry for your losses!
Post # 5
Awwww i am so sorry to hear this, i was really excited for you 🙁 i’ve been through 2 losses so I know how rough it is. Gve it some time and you’ll know when you are ready to ttc again. message me if u need anything. 🙁
Post # 6
I’m so sorry for your losses.
Post # 7
My heart goes out to you; I’m so sorry for your losses. I know it’s scary, but I’ll echo PP and suggest you do go to see your doctor. Sharing that you had two miscarriages in a row with them might allow them to look into if there is an issue or something that could help you keep the pregnancy. Sending virtual hugs and wishing you the best.
Post # 8
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I am so so sorry for your losses! If you feel taking a break from it would help you cope, by all means do..De definitely consult a doctor in the near future to determine if there is a cause to these issues or what can help.
Post # 9
Your body isn’t defective. Miscarriages are totally normal, but for some reason it’s something that isn’t talked about very much.
I know you must be hurting, and I think you’re right – you should take some time to get to a better place emotionally.
You’ve just started so I am not sure why you’re doing all that charting/temping etc. Isn’t that just adding extra pressure and stress? This should be a fun time. The body doesn’t react well to stress.
I would take a break and talk to your doctor about what’s going on.
The fact you seem to be getting pregnant fairly easily is a good thing. I am sure you will have a baby in the near future 🙂
Post # 10
I’m so sorry you’re going through this pain. Take time to heal and relax and when you’re ready, go at it again. Many have been in your situation and later blessed with their bundle of joy. Don’t despair 🙂
Post # 11
I’m so sorry. Your rainbow baby will come and he or she will be the most beautiful thing you’ve laid eyes on. Hugs!
Post # 12
Thank you all for your responses, this is why I love the bee.
@the_newlymintedmrs-s17: thank you 🙂 I guess that’s all I can do, one day at a time
@BrandNewBride: @MadTownGirl: thank you. I’m going to try to talk to the doc but from others’ experiences I know of, you have to have 3 in a row for them to do tests… I’ll try to sweet talk him but that sounds like torture
@mtler: Thanks so much, I was thinking of you this morning… I’m sorry for your losses as well and sending positive thoughts your way! I completely understand your hesitancy about announcing it now.
@sailor: thank you
@mixtaperomance: yeah I will try to get some testing done… I hope DH will be understanding of a possible break
@canarydiamond: I really wish people would talk about miscarriage because I feel like the secret makes it something to be ashamed of, though I don’t want to make it public knowledge myself either. DH is older than me (36) and we want to have a large family. I don’t think being informed about my body and cycle is a bad thing, I’ve never had normal periods and had a mirena for the last several years. Its nice to be informed about my body through temping – for example I saw this coming yesterday when my temp started to drop, took another preg test and despite it being negative, it was better to know what’s going on than freak out when I started bleeding like crazy today. You’re right that we’re very lucky and able to get pregnant quickly! It takes off the huge burden of not knowing if that’s even possible, something we’ve been worried about before trying. Hopefully it sticks the next time.
@glitter86: thank you, I know people who have been through major infertility issues who have kids so I feel bad even feeling bad.
@ccflowers: thanks 🙂 your response made me smile!
Post # 13
I am so very sorry. I agree with PPs, take any time off you need for the time being but when you are ready to try again I would also recommend talking to a doctor to see if they can do anything to keep this from happening. I know the general published rule is 3 miscarriages in a row but not all doctors require that. My doctor ordered simple bloodwork after my first miscarriage. I didn’t even have to ask for it he just told me when I got pregnant again to let them know immediately and they would get me in for an appointment. They monitored my hcg levels and progesterone and we found out early (4 weeks) during my second pregnancy my progesterone was quite low. They put me on supplements and now I am 19 weeks. I was never tested with my first pregnancy so I’ll never know if that was a progesterone issue or not but it is so nice to have a doctor who is proactive. If your doctor isn’t perhaps you could find one who is? Take care and good luck to you.
Post # 14
I’ve had two as well. It isn’t easy and I understand how you feel. I’m terrified we will have issues when we are actually TTC so I am not much help.
Post # 15
@bella128: *sending some hugs your way* I’m really sorry for your losses! I do think maybe you should tlak to your doctor though. Perhaps progesterone might help you? Good luck moving forward.
Post # 16
@bella128: I’m so sorry you are going through this:( FX that your have your rainbow baby soon- your body can get pregnant, so that is a really positive sign that everything will work out.