Post # 1
Would it be considered poor form to only have a chicken dish as the only entree option? Obviously we would also offer a vegetarian option. We are having the reception at a classy country club and want to keep things simple. I also don’t want to pay an arm and a leg when I know a lot of people have issues with getting steak at a large even because of it not being cooked properly, etc. Do you think it looks OK if we say something on the response card like “Seated dinner at reception. Please note if vegetarian.” Or something like that…any thoughts?
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
You can definitely do just chicken, but I would also appreciate the choice. You don’t have to have steak as the other option. You could have fish or pork or a beef dish that isn’t a large piece of steak. If you go with just chicken, I would give your guests a choice between chicken and veggie and let them know they have this choice instead of just asking people to identify themselves as vegetarian. Some people may want the vegetarian option instead of chicken even if they aren’t vegetarians. I can think of a few people who would rather have veggie lasagna or a veggie stir fry to a piece of chicken piccata, etc.
Post # 4
@AllieInOhio: Maybe you could be more descriptive of the vegetarian item to make it sound like a second great choice.
Example: Choice of Chicken Divan or Vegetarian Stuffed Peppers
Maybe people who aren’t vegetarian would choose it too.
Post # 5
@mrsSonthebeach: I agree. If I were a guest, I’d be ok with chicken being the only meat option, but I would like to know what the veggie option was as well. It is always nice to give people a choice.
Post # 6
I also decided not to do steak because it was $10 more per person and I have learned that FI and I do not agree on how steak should be cooked. I didn’t want to eat a non-rare steak and I didn’t want to pay $2000+ so my guests and FI could whine about a mooing steak.
We are doing chicken and a salmon. We were heavily considering chicken and a sweet potato rissoto (which is vegetarian, but also our favorite meal). I found guest like having the choice. I have been at a wedding where we had one awesome meal. I didn’t complain, but several people expressed that they would have liked a choice.
I think chicken and vegetarian work if you make it a yummy meal that is universally appealing and add it on your RSVP as a meal choice.
Post # 7
I second what PP’s have said in that you don’t just have to offer steak or beef– there are a lot of other meat options. I also think that you should list both entree options (the chicken and the veggie). I’m not a vegetarian, so I wouldn’t check that box on a general response card. However, I also really don’t like chicken. I’d probably be a little put out (and hungry) if I showed up, chicken was the only meat entree, and I couldn’t choose to have the veggie instead. Easy peasy to avoid bothersome picky people like me by listing both entrees and offering the choice. 🙂
Post # 8
@AllieInOhio: i never realised until recently that in US/UK its considered normal to have a choice of entrees! The only weddings ive attended are here in mexico, where there is one set meal for everyone- might be chicken, might be fish, might be meat…but everyone gets the same thing. and if the guest cant eat it, they go hungry, sucks to be them. Venues dont offer more than one option (well, thats true of the ones ive looked at for my wedding) i assume maybe if vegetarians contacted the couple in advance there might be a veg option available but never seen it happen
so for me, i dont think theres any problem with only one option. though to be fair, ive never known anything different! nice to list both options and let people choose though, if its possible
Post # 9
I think it’s more than generous, sometimes weddings get way out of control and I think we do it to ourselves. I worked in catering while in college and we dud weddings for alumni. I can’t tell you how many plates of food we threw out that we barely touched and the food was actually reall good!
Maybe you could ask about a really nice pasta dish (maybe eggplant parm with side pasta) as your vegetarian option, that way it could appeal to everyone!
Post # 10
I’m only doing chicken and vegetarian. I know all the vegetarians who are invited so I’m not even giving it as a reply option. I’m a vegetarian and I wouldn’t even care if I was served chicken, there’s always plenty of other stuff anyway (salad, potatoes, rolls, cake!).
Post # 11
I’d offer chicken and veggie without specifying whether the people are vegetarian or not. I know a few people who do not eat chicken and would appreciate having the veggie option.
Post # 12
I agree with PP, why not do a pasta dish? Like a choice of chicken or fettucine alfredo? I’d really enjoy that. Or maybe like veggie samosas.
Post # 13
I think it’s fine, but I agree with asking people to choose between the 2 dishes: the chicken or vegetarian.
I am not a vegetarian, but if the vegetarian dish was…oh…pumpkin ravioli, for instance, I’d be all over that instead of chicken 😉