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Okay Mom's! I don't plan on having kids until probablu 2012. But giving birth freaks me out. NOT pushing out the baby but the after affects.
I just found a website that tells about "After labor". How true is this site?
My biggest question... how many of you ACTUALLY got Hemorrhoids??? Sorry for the personal question but EEK that just freaks me right out!!!
That looks about right... I read the site you linked to. As for hemorrhoids, usually women get them long before the delivery. The weight of the baby contributes to it. I can't speak to it specifically (yet), but I think it's really really common.
Oh lovely! I heard they never go away. PLEASE tell me that's not true... I'm so clueless when it comes to this stuff!
I think most of the time everything goes back to normal not too long after birth. I have a friend who had a baby in November and she's feeling very normal now.
Sunshine: you're not the only one that is totally freaked out! For the longest time, I didn't even want babies because I'm too afraid of pregnancy and giving birth... Now I want some in a couple of years, but I do have to get rid of the fear... I find that reading about it doesn't make it better for me so I decided to stop, and when I do get pregnant, I'll take things as they come, I gues...
Glad to know I'm not alone! There's all these "unspoken" things that I want to know ahead of time haha.
Anything else I should know hehe ;-)???
You poo while giving birth- but the nurses just whisk it away- and you probably won't notice because it's numb, naturally or not... all that pushing.....
One thing I was shocked to hear about with actual labor is that they often give you an enima. My mom was telling me, saying you just have to push and can't exactly control what you're pushing so sometimes it can result in deficating, which is why they give an enima. She said the first time it freaked her out, but then the next time she went into labor too quickly and wasn't able to get one, so by the 3rd child she definitely wanted it. Not fun...
I've heard that... and I've heard they give you something so you don't... ??
Yes, hemorrhoids are very common, but to be honest i NEVER had them with either one of my girls. Not during pregnancy or after birth. I will say having a bowel movement for the first time after birth is really scary.
Sometimes it can hurt, The muscles are still sore (really every thing is still sore). they don't give enemas any more, they use to believe having a bowel movement would pose a risk of infection. It is very common to go to the bathroom while pushing and they just pull the pad out from under you and replace it.
Wow - confronting! Think I'm gonna have to head over to the "Puppies, Kitties, Warm fuzzy pictures" thread to get over this one! LOL
Okay this thread is freaking me out even more than I was before! Going to the puppie and kittens too!
Hahahhaaha. I probably shouldn't have started this post but I seriously was not going to ask family members these questions...
The funny thing is that all these weird things start happening that no one ever tells you about. Every little new thing I was like, "What the %^%&?!" Now it's kind of cool to be going through all these changes... but the first couple of nights that I had to wake up 6 times to go pee, I was sure something was wrong with me.
Once I got pregnant, I started reading "Girlfriends Guide to Pregnancy" which gave me the low down dirty details... Don't read it unless you are ready, though!
I agree that is a great book! I jokes that i was going to write one of those after my first!
Omg I shouldn't have clicked on this. I'm already soooo freaked out by the idea of having a baby! I'm scared of being pregnant and living through that for 9 months more than the actual labor part. I'm sure it doesn't help that I tend to watch House/ER/Greys/Private Practice a lot and without fail-- when some super weird medical thing happens, it turns out the chick was pregnant and it made her body freak out. Plus, every time I ever go to the doc they ask first if I might be pregnant.
This all leads me to believe that I'm just going to feel ill for 9 months. Plus, I already have to pee more than any person I know. Am I going to live in the bathroom?! eek :(
i was my friends birthing partner and she had an amazing labor but i wish someone told me that babies come out blue - it toally freaked me out! there i was looking at this baby half hanging out of my friend and i looked at the nurse and thru very terse lips and low voice i said "is it normal for the baby to be so blue" and she just looked at me and said yes it was fine. i dont know if she was lying to me or not but everything was fine and mum & bub happy
@ Sulaii li and Joeswife - no pooping and no enema for my friend but i will say later that day she as in tears at the thought of having to go to the toilet as the thought of wee'ing terrified her
I think it's common to be freaked out about labor but I'm trying hard to remember that a woman's body is an amazing, amazing thing and it knows what it's doing. Also that millions of women have done it before me and survived. :) That helps a lot.
For a book on this, check out "Ina May's Guide to Childbirth" which is all about how birth isn't scary and rather than painful, should be wonderful. I'm really enjoying reading it and would definitely recommend it.
I've always been horribly afraid of being pregnant (having something growing inside of me!?! creeeeeeepy!!!!) and giving birth (oh the pain, the paaaaiiiiinnnnn). I don't even want to think about the possibility of having kids yet, at least not for a few more years.
The first time I heard about pooping while giving birth was actually in Scrubs. This is the clip (it's just 30 seconds, and really funny, watch it!):
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9sbLHbxq3i0
My reaction? "Wha???" so I googled and googled and it was really hard to find any clear information that either confirmed or denied (I didn't know which websites were reliable, since this is something I'm not used to googling about), so I tried my best to forget about it... I still remember the Scrubs clip though...
I haven't read through all the posts, so sorry if I repeat stuff, but here is my labor story!
Hemorrhoids- got them before labor. the pressure of the baby causes them (not all women get them though) and truthfully, my son is almost 2 and I get them still. not fun! :(
I wasn't constipated at all after labor. They gave me these pills that help loosen your stools so it was no problem for me! But the first BM after labor sucked. I had an epesiotomy (spelling?!) and then tore the rest of the way to my butt (sorry if TMI!) but they made me pee in front of them for the first time. i think they measure the amount of blood and stuff.but becuase of all the stitches and stuff, it really hurt and burned to pee. they give you a squirt bottle with stuff in it to spray on yourself down there because you can't wipe, and that feels ssssooo good!
pooping while pushing - yep! sure did! didn't even know it though, and the nurse just switches the matt under you really quick, so no problem.
hmmm.... i think that is about it! any other questions i'll answer, and if i think of something else, i'll let ya know! :)
Scrubs introduced me to the concept of BMs during birth! I couldn't believe it. As if I wasn't scared enough to have a baby as it is...
I had a c section (emergency) after a long long labor which went nowhere.
All I have to say is that I didn't find things that bad actually. Now the c section was wierd..you could feel people pushing down hard on your abdomen but no pain and I was always asking my anesthesiologist for more pain meds (worried I'd feel something b/c I was awake) b/c I am a huge baby.
I was sore for a while after they took the morphine pump out of my back (not sure why it was even in there). But fine a few days later.
For me, labor felt like I had to go to the bathroom. That's all. With a c section I had no tearing and my doc stiched me up awesomely.
The epidural stung for a second or two, but when they got it in it was smooth sailing ahead. And they had to do mine 2x (missed the 1st time).
Seriously, it wasn't that bad and everything went wrong with mine.
OMG, I am totally terrified of child birth. And this thread definitely isn't helping. But, it's definitely good to know this stuff (way) ahead of time, hehe.
Sign me up for a c-section..... heh jk! Theres still those 9+ mo though...
Child birth doesn't scare me...maternity wards do. I'd totally hide in the bushes to have my kids, a la the women of Bornfree.
It is NOT that bad! I swear.
With all the doctors appts, you feel like a science project tho. Kinda funny. And seeing yourself become a mommy person w/baby in tummy is fun kinda too.
so is the ...ahem..."poo" really obvious and you feel it? and do most people do it? or do you not even notice? also, do they give you meds so you don't or do it less?
I am nervous about this...not to nervous to not have kids or want kids soon but...nervous! weird this freaks me out more then the pain...
i had no idea that i pooed until i asked the person who was in the room with me! you don't feel it at all. and when you feel like you need to push, it feels like you have to go potty. they tell you to push like you would if you were going to the bathroom. i wouldn't worry about that at all! a LOT of people do it and they clean it up right away. you won't even notice that you did!
While every woman is different, FWIW, my recovery after childbirth was not bad at all. I had a small tear with stitches, and that was uncomfortable for about a day. The ice packs and Dermaplast spray really helped. I was sore for about 4 days, but nothing worse than what you'd feel after a vigorous workout. I never got hemorrhoids. I didn't get an enema. I couldn't tell you if I pooped during labor or not (I didn't ask), but I can tell you that my first post baby poop was not as bad as I expected. I would recommend taking a stool softener.
Obviously I was really lucky, but there's no reason to assume that your recovery will be bad. Besides, once the baby is out, it's hard to feel anything but intense love.
Oh I just read that link and seriously, it makes it sound SO much worse than it is. It's like, yeah, ok those things happened, but it wasn't like I was miserable or in pain at any point. Just tired and a little sore.
I had to have a surgery to remove a cyst which left me with stiches in my vaginal area so it hurt to pee, so at least I know what that's like! Seriously, if you simulaneously pour some warm water over it while you pee, then it doesn't really sting at all. I was also afraid of getting an infection though so I'd sit in the tub with some warm water after every time. I didn't totally fill the tub and take an hour long bath or anything, just enough to be sure I could get everything clean. It helped with pain too. It just stings. I imagine childbirth is much worse.
This whole pooping in childbirth pretty much explains to me why husbands weren't allowed in delivery rooms in the 50s..
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