Child bullied by "friend" and mother?

posted 3 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

@Soon2BMrsDPlus3:  what an awful situation you are in. You need to go down to the school ASAP and talk to the teacher or principle. This is not good enough and the school needs to intervene now. My son was bullied at school and I went straight to the principle and it was dealt with straight away and it hasn’t happened since. 

Goodluck:)))

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@Holly77:  +1 You are doing the right thing taking it to the school. Make sure they know how severe it is and that you have been dealing with it already.

Also, please take her off Facebook. It is just another forum for bullying. Also, she is not legally allowed to be on it at her age.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@Soon2BMrsDPlus3:  Here’s my advice. Take your daughter off FacebooK. Let the school know what is going on and what you want the school to do about it. (Change of seats and separate classes next year.) 

Good Luck! 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Soon2BMrsDPlus3 I don’t have any real advice, just wanted to send hugs and good thoughts to you and especially your little one…hope this will work out in the end.

 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@Soon2BMrsDPlus3:  I really hope the bullying gets sorted as soon as possible. Im shocked that the teacher has not left the fm system on in the cclassroom all year. It seems so strange. I know this is not the issue at hand but where I live homework consolidates skills already known to the child (I’m referring to primary age children). It should not be too challenging. I would check that with the school. It’s not good for her to be getting upset about her homework. It really sounds like you are being a loving responsible parent, I hope it works out for her as soon as possible.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

hugs as someone who has been bullied from grade k to grade 10 i applaud you for helping ur daughter my parents just burried the heads in the sand.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@Soon2BMrsDPlus3:  I am a HUGE fan of how you have decided to handle Facebook with your daughter. This way she isn’t left out of things but you are monitoring it all completely. 

I’m glad things seem to be slowly working themselves out. Hopefully next year is much, much better.

I was bullied when I was younger and the best thing was to come home every day and tell mum all about it. It was bad but not bad enough to change schools or get the school involved (It wasn’t all done on school grounds etc). I think having to cope with it made me a much stronger person. I’m sure that Abby will also grow from this too. 🙂

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Soon2BMrsDPlus3:  I don’t have a ton of advice for you about the bullying other than what’s already been offered. 

However, I do have some advice about the FM system and the IEP. I’m an SLP in the US. You’re correct that it is a legal document and that you could go to due process over the fact that the teacher (and therefore the district) is out of compliance. CAPD is a tough one to treat. Please speak to your principal regarding your displeasure with the teacher’s lack of compliance. The principal should speak to that teacher and remind her that this is something your daughter is legally entitled to, not something the teacher can decide to use as she sees fit. If the principal doesn’t speak to the teacher, go to the special Ed department at the district. Just because you won’t take them to due process doesn’t mean another parent wouldn’t. 

I hope the next school year goes better for your daughter. Sounds like you’re doing all the right things for her. 

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Sorry but it sounds to me like both of the girls are bullying each other. I think you need to get them both in the same room and talk it out. involve the principle and outline some very clear consequences for all girls involved ithose it behaviour continues. 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@Soon2BMrsDPlus3:  I certainly think that Abby has been bullied the most and is…the bigger victim here (I hope that makes sense). And really at this point, anything she might have done that wasn’t 100% above board can be totally forgotten. 

 

BUT there certainly could have been some niggling going on in the beginning, which is what I think  @HappySky7: is referring to. During the week stay it is possible that Abby wasn’t being the nicest e.g. she didn’t have to be honest about not liking her stay, “if you haven’t got anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all”. It probably came off as very insulting for the other girl who was having to deal with sharing her space for a lot longer than usual.). It is unusual (though not super rare) for one girl to turn on another at the drop of a hat, especially a friend who has been such a good one. So yes, it’s possible that, in the beginning, things might have been going both ways.

But again, at this point, that is really just a moot point. Her mother isn’t willing to discuss it and from her behaviour I see no point in continuing contact and exposing your children to someone so deranged (I really think she is). I think you’ve done everything pretty much 100% correctly. 

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