Child Support Payments

posted 3 years ago in Legal
Post # 3
Member
1463 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Per legal guidelines, my daughter got child support until she was 21 as she was in school full time.  I’d talk to your child support division or an attorney.

Post # 4
Member
2311 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I don’t know very much abt it but I doubt that it is up to HIM which acct it gets deposited in. That is up to you, isn’t it?

Post # 5
Member
715 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@lorie:  not a lawyer but a mom here whose had to go thru YEARS of fighting and pulling teeth with my kids dad and child support. 

it isnt up to you or dad how much money he has to pay or for how long. That’s the states job to calculate who owes who And to what age of the child support is paid. The child support money is YOURS to do with as you see fit, to save, pay bills, whatever. There are also usually guidelines set forth pertaining directly to secondary (post-highschool) education, if it was not already outlined in your divorce decree. 

In short, dear old dad doesn’t just get to decide when he stops paying you, or, just not paying for an over 18 or 21 year olds education. Get your local prosecutor involved if need be, there are usually programs available to do so, to enforce ALL OF the support guidelines, and this alleviates your having to pay attorney fees and court costs To get the same things accomplished. BEST of luck to you!!!

Post # 6
Member
1463 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Sweetjennygirl:  I don’t know if the money actually is “mom’s'” after the child turns 18.  I live in Oregon and when my daughter turned 18 it went directly to her.  I did not have any control or access to it.  Not that I had any problem with it, as she used it for school/living expenses in college.  Of course, it might be different in another state, but this is what it’s like in Oregon.

Edited to add:  My ex had child support pulled directly from his paycheck by the state of Oregon, because he was such a d*ck about paying me on time.

 

 

Post # 7
Member
715 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@Kimberley25:  you have a valid point indeed. Every state is different! I have heard that about support being redirected to the 18 or 21 year old child for college/secondary school expenses, but few states that I know of enforce it that way. And the point is, the STATE will decide, not dad. 

I empathize with you on having to have support garnished because a dad won’t pay it voluntarily. That has been my case for most a decade now. This, from a man who makes over $100k a year and has since our divorce. Grrrrrrrr…..

Post # 8
Member
1463 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Sweetjennygirl:  I don’t know why they have to be such a-holes about it.  It took 2 and a half years for my divorce to get resolved because my ex fought me for everything…and WE HAD NO ASSETS.  Ugh.  I know for Oregon, a child is entitled to child support until 21 if they attend an accredited college (and I don’t think other legal agreements affect this right).  My ex actually tried to get his support stopped when our daughter turned 18 and was a freshman in college.  I still can’t stand him; he put us through so much.  I really feel for all you (mostly) women who are putting up with these “fathers.”  What really made me laugh is my ex moved to California when we split up (our daughter was 7) and I retained full legal and physical custody.  Guess who had to take a court-mandated parenting class and guess who got out of it because he lived out of state?  The absurdity of it all still makes my head spin.

Leave a comment


Sent weekly. You may unsubscribe at any time.

Find Amazing Vendors