Post # 1
So even though I am only 15+ weeks pregnant, I have already started thinking about what we will do for daycare when Baby H. arrives as I will have to go back to school for rotations shortly after and we will definitely have to have a daycare option lined up right when he/she is 6 weeks old 🙁 I am a little overwhelmed with all the choices of childcare and I have no idea which one is the best option. I was hoping you bees with childcare experience could help me out, which do you use and/or which do you think is best?
I would LOVE the option of a ‘nanny’ to come to our place to watch Baby because we also have a small dog…sort of killing 2 birds with one stone as far as not having to find the doggie daycare next school year when I will not be home as much as I am now because of rotations. However, aren’t nannies pretty expensive? Do any of you have a nanny? What do you pay them? Keep in mind I am located in Omaha, NE, so a bigger-ish city, yes, but definitely not New York. I also like that you could only pay them if they are actually watching your kid, unlike the childcare centers where you pay to hold a spot even if your kid is there or not. My Darling Husband is a teacher and has the summers off, so this might be a better option for us because he can just watch the baby in the summer time.
I also love the idea of a childcare center because you would NEVER have to worry about them calling in sick (like a nanny) and I like that they “teach” the kids things when they get a little older. This also seems like it might be the best option for us financially, as we don’t have a ton of money to put towards childcare (heck–since I am med school, I will probably be financing it through my loans). However, I have been hearing some horror stories on the news lately about what goes on at some childcare centers, and I worry about finding an actual reliable one. Any of you have experience with a childcare center with an infant?
I haven’t looked into an in-home daycare as much, but do they tend to be the cheapest option?
Thanks, bees. I am slightly overwhelmed.
Post # 3
My sister uses an in home daycare. A retired teacher watches the children of current teachers. She pays $50/day per child and loves it. It is much more personal than a daycare center. Even though she doesn’t get the tax benefit of a daycare center, her kids go to a comfortable place where there are only 2 other kids there. In home care is nice because as the kids get older, they can be driven to nursery school, etc.
As someone who worked in daycares while in college, I probably would not send my children to one.
ETA: I think nannies run around $600/week minimum. That would work nicely for you so the baby doesn’t have to get bundled up and go outside to get to a daycare. I bet you could get some pricing info on sitter.com or care.com
Post # 4
For Dirty Delete1, we had a nanny for the first year (4months-12 months). We paid her $80/day, and she was pretty reliable but there were a couple of issues where we had to either stay home or scramble and ask my mom to babysit or something. For a baby under 1, this was by far the best option for us. We toured centers and an in-home and the whole situation just made me sad because (IMO) babies need a great deal of love and physical affection that you can’t get when there’s one caregiver for every four babies.
When she was one and walking/started to talk, she went to an in-home that just had herself, the caretaker, and the caretaker’s son who was a year older. This was a great situation, only $850/month, and really close to home. The caretaker’s husband was being relocated for work, so she was only there for 6 months.
She’s been in the same in-home since 18 months (she’s almost three now) and it’s great – four kids, super clean, tons of activities and outdoor play. It is $1250/month, which is steep, but I’m more than willing to pay that for the amount of attention that she gets and the environment. She’ll go to preschool at a larger (60 total, newborn to 5 years) non-profit center as soon as they get room and that’s $1010/month.
I guess for a baby, a nanny is what I would recommend. In WA state, the baby ratio is 1 caregiver to every four babies, and that just doesn’t work for me even in an in-home setting…what are the other three babies doing when one is getting their diaper changed? But if you find something with a great environment, then make it work! Dirty Delete2 is almost four months and stays at home with me while I WAH otherwise we’d have a nanny for her too.
Post # 5
Do you or your family know anyone that would nanny?
I am half-Korean, and if I have kids and work, I plan on finding a Korean nanny to watch my child(ren). They are gentle, love kids, and don’t charge much. I always had a Korean babysitter when both my parents were working.
If that doesn’t pan out, I would choose a childcare center. I’m a little wary about in-home centers, after hearing some scary stories here in Central Florida.
Post # 6
You might consider a nanny-share if you know someone else with a young child. You can have a nanny who watches both kiddos at one of your homes (or alternate). You can spend a little less and they get a little more, since they’re watching both kids.
A good friend of mine is a daycare licenser, and it’s a bit scary.
Post # 7
I’m a nanny. I definitely think that if you can afford it, go that route. But just so you know, it’s pretty standard that your nanny gets paid whether you need them or not. So if you take a vacation, stay home sick with your baby, etc, you still need to pay your nanny. Of course if you and your nanny come to any other sort of agreement, that’s fine. Also, if you don’t need them as much in the summer, you can’t really expect them to remain loyal and available for you come fall.
You also need to consider other costs that are OPTIONAL, but standard. For every family I’ve worked for, I’ve received Christmas and birthday bonuses. The LEAST I’ve ever receieved is about a weeks pay, which again you’ll find is pretty standard.
In my current arrangement, I am guaranteed to be paid 43 hours a week, and I get paid time and a half for all overtime. I have 3 weeks paid vacation, and several paid holidays. Any time they take vacation, come home early, stay home sick, etc, I still get paid, even if they don’t want me to come to work.
I get paid under the table, but if you want things to be legitimate, there are costs involved in that as well.
Post # 8
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@cowgirlace: Whatever you choose make sure they’re licensed by the State and all persons having contact with your child have been background checked.
Post # 9
We ended up doing daycare. I own my own business and my hubby is gone a lot. So we felt like I would need a break and be able to use the time he’s at daycare to run to the store and do other errands. Plus we felt like if the nanny was in our home I’d feel like I couldn’t come and go as I needed. The downside to the daycare is they don’t do part-time for infants so the days my hubby is home is wasted. But it is nice to know he can drop him off and get some work down in quite at the house. I’ve been really impressed by the development type activities they have done with our baby. I’m not sure how much of that you’d get with a nanny.
Post # 10
I’m looking into the same types of things and for infants, the cost definitely adds up! I don’t know how prices are in your area, but for the better infant childcare places, I’m looking at anywhere from $1k-$1.7k a month for five days, 8-9 hours a day. Assuming a live-out nanny is $10/hour, that’s $80/day and about $1600/month (if you multiply it out). That’s pricier than one of the best Montessori childcare places in our area.
The nice thing about a nanny is that the ratio is literally 1:1 (if you have one child) but then like you mentioned, they can get sick or get stuck in traffic or whatever. In addition, do you feel secure leaving LO with a nanny alone all day? A lot of my relatives and friends with nannies install nanny cams that are connected to their phones and desktops. I’m sure shady nannies are a super small minority, but it’s still something to think about. A lot of the nannies I’ve met are super responsible and are educated (a lot of them are college students) so I think there are definitely great ones out there. However, the great ones tend to get snapped up quickly.
The nice thing about a daycare is that your child will be exposed to other adults and children. In addition, like you mentioned, you don’t have to worry about the daycare provider being sick and calling out because they’ll have subs they can call in. There may be more structure and you probably don’t have to worry about what’s going on during the day because there are multiple adults involved in your child’s care. Plus, they are usually open year round or have options for parents that need care year round (including holidays).
I’m currently not looking at in-home daycare but I think it’s the cheapest option of the three. You get the benefit of having a daycare cost structure (1:3-4 ratio) and the caregiver has smaller overhead than a full daycare center. The problems with this is that you run into the same issue as a nanny. You in-home care provider can still get sick and she may not be open year round (when she has an emergency/family vacation). You also have to be vigilant about checking if she is licensed and whatnot. Another issue possibly is that the caregiver may have children of all ages whereas a normal daycare would be separating them into separate age groups. This may or may not be a problem.
Post # 11
We found an in-home provider for our daughter, who is now 18 months and she loves it. Keep in mind that a nanny, makes a living off of watching your child so you need to pay them, as if it was their full time job = VERY expensive!!!! Our in home provider is $400 a month and we live in a larger college townDahomey daycare is more personal, your child will easily form a bond with their provider and there won’t be so many kids. here, childcare providers can’t have more then 5 kids in their home so it’s a small setting. My daughter had extreme separation anxiety but is always happy when I drop her off at daycare. I tried taking her to a big place and they told me she screamed bloody murder the ENTIRE day. Also, your child needs interaction with other children, a nanny wouldn’t provide that like an in home provider.
Post # 12
I am a nanny, but I have actually worked in a preschool and in-home child care. From my personal experience, of all the places I would put my child if I had one would be a child care center. HOWEVER, I worked at a natioanlly recognized headstart, so assuming you are not qualified for a headstart space (since you are in med school I think I am safe to say you are not), it is important to find a very good one. Try looking if there are any child care centers or preschool with infant classrooms through the school district. Those are usually much more regulated and have licenses for everything under the sun. Plus, you know the people working there are actually qualified.
Nannies can be expensive. For me, I became a nanny rather than working in a center because of the pay. I work for a very wealthy family who can afford to pay me well though. I’m not saying if you can’t shell out the big bucks that you can’t afford a nanny, and since you live in the Midwest (where I used to live and work) I know for a fact that nannies do not expect as much as they do in NY (where I am now).
My mother used to ran a in-home daycare, and now actually works for a company that inspects and licenses them. Just like with the other options, it is important to find a reputable provider. In Kansas providers must be licensed and have it updated every so many years, so I’m assuming it’s the same in NE (and probably every state). A very good family friend has been a child care provider (in KS) for years, and I know she charges about $20 a day (far cheaper than a nanny for all day care).
Each one has it’s pros and cons. I always think having single children around other kids is the best way to go, but I know some prefer to have the one-on-one interaction between a provider and the child, and in the comfort of their own home. IMO, in-home daycares are the cheapest route, but like you said, I have heard horror stories, and I think they are more prone to accidents, just because it is usually one caregiver with several children, and they are not monitored as closely as a center would be. Nannies have (in your case) one child to look after, so they are usually more reliable (unless they are a terrible nanny!)
I hope this helps, and good luck deciding!
Post # 13
I have used an in-home day care for each of my 2 daughters- 2 different ones. I would highly reccomend it- as long as they are state licensed. Then they have the same inspections and requirements as large child care centers without the larger staff to child ratio (at least in my state). I like the idea of my children being raised in a home-like environment. The women who do in-home care really become like family.
Post # 14
@Ninteenthchance: I’m a nanny, and I take my one kiddo to book baby (free book/music class at the library!) and a music class once a week. We have play dates with her parents friends’ kids and kids I used to nanny for all the time as well. It’s entirely possible for babies to have a nanny AND have interaction with other kids.
Post # 15
@cowgirlace: I was a nanny while doing night classes, I got paid $40 a day, was in Des Moines. I was more than happy to help out with the house, doing laundry, cooking and watching their 3 dogs. It was a great agreement and they were the sweetest family.
Post # 16
I would never put my child in day care that young. My mom has worked in daycare for over 20 years and the horror stories she tells me from all of the daycares she’s worked in… -shudder-
I plan on letting my mother raise my children when I’m at work. It’s a cultural thing, and my mom is planning on retiring around the time I have my kids (and when my brother has his kids too) so I feel it works nicely.
I would pay the extra money for a nanny.