(Closed) Childfree wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Some bees have added  “Adult reception” at the bottom

Others have addressed the situation on their website.

It’s a shame that so many people are completely ignorant of common etiquette and  simply do not realize that if your name isn’t on the invitation, you are not invited. Or, that you cannot bring people with you who did not get their own invitation. Or, ignore what they know.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@julies1949:  Agree whole-heartedly.  It actually really bugs me that we have to keep talking about “childfree, adult-only weddings” when really this just comes down to addressing the envelopes properly and people not being crazy rude.  

OP we just put a quick note on our website.  We made an exception for my friend who had a brand new baby and was breastfeeding…that baby was invited.  🙂  

Our wording was something like:  “We’re looking forward to dancing the night away with friends and family!  We ask that parents please leave their kids at home.”  This only applied to a couple of people (including my BIL and SIL) and the response was mostly fine.  We had to explain it to one couple who wanted to set up a pack and play (no room, no way, no how) and one of my friends was a bit…upset about it.  Pretty painless overall.

Good luck!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

On our invitations we wrote “Adult reception to follow.”  So hopefully that axes any thoughts for people to bring their children!  I REALLY, REALLY hope we don’t have to deal with anyone bringing their children because they thought it’d be ok since I think their kid is cute and they’re a close friend.  I’m sorry, but I want NO kids allowed.  I still have to discuss no longer having my friend’s young son in the wedding as a ring bearer because 1) we never wanted one in the first place and only asked so she wouldn’t feel left out since another friend WAS a bridesmaid 2) her kid can’t sit still and is always crying and fidgiting!  I don’t want my wedding ruined cuz of someone else’s kid. It makes me cringe just thinking about it!  

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

We put “adult reception to follow” at the bottom. It worked pretty well. The only thing that happened was that DH’s uncle asked if his teenage kids were invited (DH’s first cousins) which of course they were

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@julies1949:  I know! We have friends who had a child-free wedding and once they had kids, they would bring them to the receptions even though they weren’t invited! I just can’t understand it – they’ve been through it so they should know better!

We are not inviting children so we are just not mentioning them on the invite. Everything is adresses strictly to Mr. and Mrs. John Smith….NOT the Smith Family!

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

We’re having a kid free wedding. It’s actually against etiquette to write anything about it on the invites. Unfortunatly, people these days have no common sense and just don’t get it. I’m not writing anything on the invite, but the reception insert will be worded – “Please join us for an adult evening of dinner, drinks, and dancing.”

We’re also paying for a babysitter to be set up at home within the resort we’re getting married.

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