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I think you should go with a dress that represents who you are. I know there's a dress that you dreamed of for years, but is it really who you are today? Would you regret a ballgown? Honestly, it sounds like your sold on your first dress! I would go with your gut and get it! It's GORGEOUS!
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I would go with who you are today. I did that, and while I had some thoughts of regret before the wedding b/c I didn't have a "huge white dress" that I felt I should have, I loved my dress on the wedding day and felt it was perfect for me and my wedding.
Go with the fit-and-flare--it's gorgeous, and you should feel like yourself on your wedding day. :)
LOVE LOVE LOVE the one in your first post.
Definately go with the "who you are today" dress.
Childhood dreams are just that: childhood dreams. Go with your adult choices, not what you thought you wanted when you were 5, 10, or 15 years old. You probably had no idea there was a mermaid style of dress back then! As we mature, our tastes change; and also in the planning process you are exposed to things you never knew existed. So go for the "here and now", not the "I always thought I wanted...".
I think you should go with the princess-y dress. Classic and beautiful. Consider that in 20 years from now you may look back on your picture and think "what was I thinking?" NOT that it's not a great dress, but like you said: you're a different person today than you were as a child. Obviously you will be different in the future and the ballgown is just timeless.
I really like the first dress. Getting married is about the now and the future. I am sure that you will look beautiful in both.
You know, I had that thought too. Mine's still a ball gown :), but there was a more classic shape that I had always thought I would get. It was definitely more fairy tale than the one I ended up with, which (I think!) is a little more 'grown-up.' I'd get the one that feels right for who you are today. I think you'll be a lot happier if your dress represents you instead of 10-year-old you :).
I love the second dress! Think of it this way: you loved it as a child, it blew you away as a woman. It means you still like it. Also, ball gowns are classic. They never go out of style; can't say the same with fit and flare.
I love the details on the first dress! I say go with who you are now. Everyone's dresses will look dated either way in 20 years anyways.
I like the first dress, but it also looks really trendy and doesn't look like an outdoor garden wedding dress. I think the second one is better for that. Like seanmarie said, your tastes will probably change again. When you look back on your photos and your day would you rather be wearing something trendy you like now or something timeless you dreamed about as a little girl?
I saw the ballgown dress.
1. I am not a huge fan of the big flower on the first dress.
2. The Casablanca ballgown is my exact dress- I might be biased ;)
Both dresses are gorgeous so you absolutely can't go wrong no matter what you do. And if one feels more right than the other, I urge you to follow your gut.
All of that being said, I personally prefer the ballgown. I think it fits a garden wedding better and I'm just a sucker for the way it looks. BUt that is me, and I am not you.
Think about it this way, if we all picked our "childhood dream dress" 95% of women would be wearing a ball gown down the aisle :)
I say pick the dress that fits the woman you are today. Yeah in 20 years you will look back and it won't look "timeless" but who cares? It fits your personality at the time you married the man you love!
ETA: I may be biased though because I am not a fan of ball gowns/A-line dresses ;)
The first dress does nothing for me AT ALL. I love your "princess gown", though.
Both dresses are beautiful, and I definitely think you should follow your instincts, whichever way you're leaning. That said, I LOVE the first dress. It captures the unique look that some of today's dresses showcase, but in a classy, less "trendy" way. I think it's gorgeous. The second dress is very pretty too, and I love the scalloped edge at the bottom. I think it comes down to which dress makes you feel the most beautiful. Too bad they wouldn't let you take pictures! The personality of the dress always seems to show through much more on real brides.
I LOVE that ballgown. I've seen a similar thread to yours here recently...I'm having a hard time understanding why so many ladies seem to think ballgowns are an out-of-date, childhood fantasy thing? There's a time and place for everything and the wedding day is definitely one where a classic princessy look is befitting. You can be a modern,sexy, fun woman; wear jeans for day-to-day stuff, business suits to work, short party dresses on nights out, and still wear a ballgown on your wedding day. It's a glamorous look, it doesn't make you non-modern and definitely not a little girl.
My little rant aside, you should wear what you feel best in. I just think you shouldn't base your decision on trying to make a statement about your personality, especially since you said the ballgown "blew you away".
@meliss: I agree!
I think you should go with the dress that you said "blew you away" which is the second dress.
Go with the one that makes you feel like a bride. Personally, I went with the ballgown because if I had another fancy event, I would be highly unlikely to wear a ballgown, but would probably go sheath or mermaid. I also wanted a more traditional look. Maybe wear a ballgown that looks a little more like #1? Both are stunning, so you can't go wrong.
I found a picture I had kept from a bridal magazine in high school. Needless to say the dress was an 80's style sheath dress w/ off the shoulder sleeves and the burnout lace design. Beading everywhere and big hair and head piece. But I would run the other way now if I found it on the rack. Definately go with the who you are now.
I love the ballgown! (Of course, I must admit that I love ballgowns, and that I would love any opportunity to wear a ballgown!) Yes, I am a Princess wanna bee! That being said, I think that gown is classically beautiful! I don't think that you will ever regret wearing it! The other gown is modern and chic, but somehow, I just don't think it speaks of beauty and elegance. (I guess, I figure you can always be modern and chic, but on your wedding you want to feel both beautiful and elegant!)
Can you have both? I had the same dilema, I really wanted a short tea length dress but I couldn't get the princess dress out of my mind. I talked to my FH about my dilema and he told me to do both. He said you only get to do this once and he wanted me to have no regrets. I would rather spend a few hundred more dollars and not have any regrets then look back and say I should have. I will be wearing the ball gown for the wedding and the tea length for the reception.
The ball gown is beautiful, but I love the first gown - especially if it fits you more as the person you really are!
Only you can make that decision.
I chose to go with my childhood dream because that is part of what made me who I am today. I am still that little girl on the inside :-)
Again, the Bees came to my rescue. Thanks to each of you for your insightful remarks! Now, it's time to make a decision and of course, I will keep you posted!!!
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Hey Bees!!! Just when I thought I was ready to say "Yes to the Dress" a curve ball was thrown my way (thanks to my mom
). After trying on roughly 50 dresses, the first dress remained a favorite because it definitely fits the person that I am TODAY. It has personality, it's fun, but still elegant at the same time. You can't beat that combination. Then, my mom asked the consultant if there was a stunning ball gown that I would be able to try on. That's when I was brought the second dress that just blew me away when I tried it on. While standing in that dress, it brought back memories of how I wanted to look on my wedding day, and that's like a PRINCESS. The ceremony will take place in a beautiful, classic garden and the reception will also be outside. Sorry I cannot post any pictures of me in the dress because they didn't allow cameras, but I am a size 10 so both dresses look great on me.... it's just a matter of the Childhood Dream Dress vs. The Lady I am Today. HELP!!! 
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