Post # 1
- Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016
Okay, here’s the thing, I’m 25 years old and I constantly struggle between what is too young for me and what is too old. I don’t like wearing skirts above my knee or tops with too thin of straps. I don’t think it’s proper for someone of my age (it’s not a religious thing either, I just feel like everything I wear now has to be appropriate for when I’m in my 30s) to show a lot of skin. However, on the flip side, I hate wearing pants of any sort, and almost strictly wear dresses. I also love lace and ruffles and bows-all things associated with little girls. I hate pencil skirts or other cuts associated with sexy and adult women, I like loose or poofy skirts. Although I like heels, it’s usually a chunky mary jane type, never pointy toe, and I’m getting used to wearing flats more (because my SO is only an inch taller than me), also usually with bows and straps (not the typical ballet flats because they’re very uncomfortable). This is where I once again feel too childish.
Translate to my wedding. We want to get married at Disney. Not have a Disney themed wedding persay, but a fairytale theme that’s all about us. Now I’m afraid my friends and family are going to think it’s time I grow up. Like, Disney? Really? Just a few minutes ago I showed my SO a Precious Moments statue of Snow White and her prince that I thought would be adorable for our cake topper and he said it looked too childish. I know he wasn’t calling ME childish, but I feel like it’s cementing the idea that I need to grow up, get over cute, pretty little things and act my age. I’m not really sure about anything right now. I feel like if I try to incorporate my grown up things to my wedding like high heels under my dress instead of flats, or getting rid my crown or things like that then I won’t really feel like myself…but at the same time, will I feel better about it later because I won’t feel like I’m being viewed as a child playing pretend or not acting my age?
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
Two things popped into my mind: Don’t worry about what other people think. If that’s the avenue you want to take with your wedding (and your FI is on board) do what you want! The other thing… You don’t have to act or dress a certain way just because you’re 25 or 30 or 35 or 40! You be who you want! You don’t have to act a certain way because you think it’s expected of you. 🙂 Do what makes you happy, and if that’s a fairytale themed wedding at Disney, then do it!
Post # 3
TwinkleBoss: I would have loved to have been able to hold my wedding at Disney. If you can afford it, do it! Or you always wish you had done it. As for the cake topper, I had a cinderella and prince charming cake topper. But it was them, and not precious moments. So maybe it’s the precious moments characters your FI doesn’t like. If Disney is a part of who you are, your family and FI will understand.
Post # 4
TwinkleBoss: We have very different tastes but a couple similarities- I do not like pants (total prefer skirts and dresses and shorts- but i def love me some pencile skirts and mini skirts/short dresses) and I also dont wear heals all too often. Heels and pencil skirts don’t make you a woman/grown up. Its how you carry yourself and your over all maturity.
If you look at your wardrobe and think its suitable for a 5 year old and you feel self concious wearing it, that probably indicates your TASTE is changing. If you love it, then rock it.
Rock your style. As far as your FI not liking your cake topper- just find one you both love and stop over thinking it.
Post # 5
Okay first and foremost I am 40 almost 41. And honestly women my age (gasp) such as my self do wear spaghetti strapped/skirts above the knee. And quite frankly who cares what others think. If you want to have your wedding at Disney more power to you! I love Disney and when my son gets a little older we plan on taking him there, and you know what as probably in my mid 40’s then I plan to rock the Mickey ears.
Oh and I also have purple streaks in my hair… so pretty much everything is fair game.
Post # 6
- Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo
TwinkleBoss: I’m 31 and I super heart your style. I’m midway through a half-sleeve, super girly, Lisa Frank style, unicorn and rainbow tattoo. As someone who has looked young and been in a field dominated by people older than me for a long time, I can tell you that how you act is more important than dressing older. People will forget how you look if you’re interacting in an adult way. And that’s at work. Your wedding should reflect you and your fiance’s style. So if he’s not into the precious moments stuff, ok drop that. But if Disney and crowns are reflective of both of you, go for it.
Post # 7
25 is still young enough to wear whatever you want! Do it up! Because when you are 35,40 or 50 you will wish you did dress up like A princess for your wedding If that is your style. Enjoy it! Who cares what other people think! 25 is young. Your not 45 and wearing a tiara. And even if you were 45 and wanted to rock it do it. Your only young/live once be true to you.
Post # 8
Have you heard of Kawaii culture? You’re certainly not the only adult women to enjoy cute and adorable things, and there’s nothing wrong with that.
I would however, interpret this in a more sophisticated way so it’s definitely cute and not costumey or childish. So instead of wearing a lace shirt + full skirt + flats with pink bows all at once, pick only one or two of those items. And a Disney wedding sounds lovely, but maybe skip the Precious Moments cake topper.
Personally, I think this is still very cute and whimsical without being too over the top: https://www.etsy.com/listing/196518918/disney-wedding-cake-topper?ref=sr_gallery_1&ga_search_query=disney+wedding+cake+topper&ga_order=most_relevant&ga_ship_to=ZZ&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery
Post # 9
I’ve planned a trip to Disneyland for early next year, and I’m going to be the biggest kid when I get there. Squealing, fast walking, hyperventilation in excitement. I even bought THE most ridiculous vintage Goofy hat from a garage sale to wear. Do I care if I’m being childish? Hell no! If I could financially swing a Disneyland wedding (expensive since we’re not in the US) I would do it in a heartbeat.
I’m the same at Christmas. I am the non-socially-handicapped version of Buddy the Elf. It’s FUN to be a little childish.
<br />You wear your style and you own it. Do whatever you want! If those clothes make you feel confident, wear them. I’m sure they look nice on you!
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!
TwinkleBoss: You were born as an original, don’t die as a copy!!!
Seriously though, mid 20s are the perfect time to really be yourself. My mom teases me because she says that I went through the “teenage phase” while I was getting my master’s degree. Sorry, Mom! I wanted purple hair, a lip piercing and to stretch out my ears. It felt like ME. While teenage years can be that awkward time for exploration, you’re now old enough to know exactly what you like, what you want, and how you want it! DO IT. Do it for yourself, be who you are! Your fiance is marrying you, not some picture of a girl in a magazine. So what if you’re a bit childish? It also makes you interesting and unique!
Post # 11
You sound alot like my mother, but I mean no offense by that. Her fashion is just the opposite of mine and kind of old school or classy. Be proud of who you are. I’m only a little younger than you and I thought about a Disney Wedding but theyre too expensive. Who cares what others think. I guarantee I’m way quirkier than you are, it just takes some skills in not giving a rat’s behind. My bf and I are planning a Disney Cruise for the honeymoon whenever that is so it’s not that different from a wedding.
Post # 13
TwinkleBoss: I wanted to have a Disney wedding but they were so expensive I couldn’t afford to but people I told didn’t tell me I was childish at all. Although in my family & fiance’s family, all the adults have like a childish side but we’re happy with that. We don’t let other people’s opinions bother us & neither should you. Don’t worry about what everyone thinks. If you like this stuff then just go for it