(Closed) Children

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

Well I sure hope not considering I turn 34 next month! seriously tho- it may become more difficult for some women after 35 but women have kids into their 40s. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

You do not need to worry about 30 being too old. You will have:

  • A solid foundation for your family
  • More life experience and knowledge
  • Maturity for raising children
  • Have the chance the prove your stepmom wrong 😉

Okay the last one counters the one before it, but I had my kid at 20 and I’m only 25 so I’M allowed to be immature 😉

I myself want more but I will most certainly be 30 before I have them. And theres NOTHING wrong with that.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

Nope says the 31yr old with a 1 yr old and her only child. We’ve thought about trying for another in about 3 or 4 yrs. LOL It works for us.

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m 32 and I had my son when I was 16.  Since my son has one more year in high school and almost out of the house, my hubby and I are working on more babies (he wants 3…yikes).  I kind of feel like I will be an old mom but oh well.  I think you can wait unitl like 35, no biggie.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

@Cornmuffin09:  Heck no 30 isnt too old!!! Things are different now than they were when our parents had kids. Look at how many “older” moms there are now….I think its better to have kids in your 30s. You are more stable then, and probably have more to offer a child.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Is this for real?

We aren’t even considering children before age 30….nobody I know under the age of 33 has children except for the people who got pregnant in high school and never left my home town.

Live a little – THEN have kids!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I don’t think so.  I’m 31, still no kids.  We probably won’t TTC until I’m 32 at the earliest.  We’ve been together for over a decade, but waited to establish our careers and get to a certain level of financial security before having kids.  Honestly no matter what you do, someone will have a problem with it:  either they will think you are “too old” or “too young”; either you are being  “irresponsible” if you have kids when you don’t make much money or don’t have much of a career going yet, but if you wait to get established in your career, people will say you are too “materialistic” and have “the wrong priorities”.  You can’t win. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I know many, many people who do not have kids until they are in their 30’s, and in my opinion, I think it’s for the best. I don’t know of anyone who would honestly say that they wished they had less time to be a couple, to be young and not responsible for another life, and all of the things that can be taken from you when you do have kids. “Wow! I wish I had kids when I was younger” is just probably not likely to be said. Enjoy your time alone and without that added responsibility. 30 is not too old to have a kid, heck, 35 isn’t too old to have a kid! I don’t think anything is “too old” until maybe you’re 50. I know people in their 40s who have just had their first baby — and while that can come with more risks, they are perfectly healthy, their kids are healthy, and they do not regret for one second having a kid at their age. 

30 may have been old to our mom’s generation — but in this day and age, we do stuff differently, and 30 is “normal.” But, screw normal! Do what you want to do and when you want to do it. If it makes you happy, who is anyone else to care?

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

Whenever you feel ready to have kids is the right age to have kids. My mom had my brother at 20 and me at 22 and she wishes she had waited until she was 30 to have kids.

I personally would love a kid right this second, but I know its not the right time, so I’m shooting for maybe 25 (I’m 23 right now.)

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

The best age to start a family is when you and your husband are ready. It could be in your 20’s, your 30’s or your 40’s but the decision is what’s best for you. In your lifetime you will NEVER be able to please people…

 If you’re:

* single “When are you going to settle down”?

* dating “When are you getting enganed”?

* engaged “When are you getting married”?

* Married “When are yougoing to start a family”?

If you:

* have 1 or 2 children “When are you having another”?

* have 5 or 6 “Why do you have so many”?

 

ARGGGHHHH!!!!! There’s no pleasing anyone. Do what you want and stuff a dirty sock down anyones throat that questions why you’re not living your life according to them!!!!

 

 

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

NO, 30 is not too old.

However, I will say that in your plan I might start having kids at 26. A kid is not going to notice moving between different houses/states until it is maybe 3-4. So if the baby fever hits and you have a kid in 2016, you will be settled somewhere by the time it enters kindergarten (2021). Just a thought.

 

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