Post # 1
DH and I are currently expecting our first baby in April (yay!). We are in an interfaith marriage (I was raised Roman Catholic, he Jewish) and I am torn on religious options for our child. DH is more culturally Jewish and doesn’t care one way or the other what religion our child follows. I want our child to have a spiritual identity of some sort but don’t know whether or not Catholic is the way to go (in addition to the fact that DH is Jewish, I have a gay sibling and many gay friends- so I struggle with the teachings of the Catholic church in that regard).
So, I guess I have two questions: 1) Is anyone here the product of a successful interfaith marriage- if so, how were you raised and how do you feel about it? 2) Does anyone here have experience with Universal Unitarianism? I’ve been reading about it and trying to figure out if it’s an option for our family to consider?
Post # 3
My dad is Jewish and my mom is Episcopalian. Neither are particularly religious per se (they don’t go to church regularly) but they do have faith. I know the Catholic (and episcopalian) religion teaches that children would be baptized as babies, but as a child that was born from an interfaith couple, I was not. My parents wanted me to choose my own religion when I was old enough to make the decision, and both made it the decision easy for me. I was culturally raised with both religions (we celebrated Hanukkah and Christmas) just so I had exposure to both, and I occasionally went to both temple and church growing up.
I was baptized and confirmed Episcopalian in high school (I later became Catholic). My parents were very supportive of my decision. One of the biggest things that helped my decision was the fact that the Jewish faith believes that you get your religion from your mother, so while everyone was very nice to me, I was never realy accepted as Jewish. Plus, I just felt Christianity was more in line with my beliefs.
My decision doesn’t matter, but I am replying to let you know that you should let your child choose, in my opinion. Raise your children around both religions (or, for that matter, all religions), and allow them to choose when they are old enough to make the decision. I know this might not work for everyone, but while there are major differences between Judaism and Christianity (obviously), for the most part, the morality teachings in both religions is the same, so your child will still grow up with a strong moral compass even if he or she is raised in both religions.
Post # 4
Not much to say on #1 (I’m some sort of unbaptized christian who likes to go to Easter services and DH is a completely non-practicing Lutheran), but I can try on #2.
My Dad was raised in the UU church (pronounced: you you). I have been a few times as a kid and a few times as an adult. My guess is that as people who are familiar with a more structured religion, the UU’s might throw you off a bit.
I generally consider myself a moderate liberal, went to the UU church a few Easters ago (to spend Easter with my grandpa who was a lay minister or whatever the equivalent is in the UU church in his later years) and it was a bit too much for me. But if you tend towards the granola/crunchy (and I say that with the greatest respect), it may work out beautifully.
For me, I have instead found a Methodist church that is fully supportive of all people/belief structures. It has the values of a UU church, but the more structured services of the Methodist religion (including taking communion – but note that even though I’m not baptized I’m allowed to take communion).
Anyway, I guess all this is to say that I would try to attend some services of the more “accepting” churches in your area – because so much varies from church to church.