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    kpao1      

    HI,

    My fiance and I would like to have an adults only evening wedding over Labor Day weekend; however, we know that this will offend OOT relatives.  We're willing to make the concession that dependent children (toddlers and infants) will be allowed to attend since many parents wouldn't be able to come or wouldn't feel comfortable leaving their young children at home alone.  How can we indicate that on the invites?  Also, is it our responsibility to then hire a babysitter for the rest of the children ages 2-18?

    Thanks!!

     
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    butterflyjessica    August 27, 2010   New Mexico

    I would find a babysitter/ daycare and get a per kid rate. You can call or email the one's with kids. let them know the price and let them decide. You can find a babysitter on Sittercity for $9.99 for one month.

     
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    butterflyjessica    August 27, 2010   New Mexico

    PS........No they should pay for this not you....you can just give them this option

     
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    Ember78    December 15, 2012  

    First of all, an 18 yr old is an adult, not a child. Someone that age (even younger teens) would be rightfully offended if they were mandated to have a babysitter. Even someone as young as 12 is able to take care of themselves for that duration and would rather be at home or hanging out with their friends somewhere than stuck with a variety of ages younger than them. Why is an infant under 2 yrs acceptable to be invited but a 2yr old isn't? That's a double standard. If you allow one child to attend, you have to allow all of them. If you truly want an adult-only wedding, don't invite any children, period. You cannot pick and choose without seriously offending people and possibly creating rifts that are irrepairable.

    A babysitter is not your responsibility. If the parents don't want to or are not able to hire anyone, then they will stay home.

     
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    Miss Mint Chocolate Chip    April 3, 2010   WA

    We're having a nursery for the kids 6 and under during the wedding (sorry no crying or babbling babies during the ceremony, and I've been to enough weddings where this happend, to know that it will happen at mine). And during the reception we're having a kids reception for 13 and under in a seperate room. We'll hire 2-3 women for babysitters and have things like xbox for the older ones and coloring for the younger ones, we're also having dinner for them in there as well :) But, I agree with Ember87, you don't want to tell some people that their kids are invited and then tell others that they can't bring theirs (unless the only kids there were in the wedding party). :)

     
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    meggyo    September 25, 2010   Chicago, IL

    we're having an adults only wedding as well. i looked up a babysitting services that comes to hotels and offered that to guests, but we're not paying for it. i think this is the responsibility of the guest to pay.

     

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