Post # 1
So I’m currently putting together the guest list, and it looks like we will have 3 children at the wedding between 1-2 years old. As children that age usually eat baby food, I have a question regarding the meal service and etiquette.
We’re having a formal meal following the ceremony. The hotel hosting our wedding offer a children’s menu, but the question is; is it expected that the hotel should serve baby food to children under the age of 2, or should the parents bring their own baby food? Is it considered rude to ask the parents to bring baby food for their babies?
Post # 3
Children 1-2 don’t necessarily eat baby food. The parents will likely bring snacks and give the children small bites off their plates so I wouldn’t worry about ordering them a kids meal.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I would just assume the parents will bring food for their babies. That’s pretty basic parenting 101. I wouldn’t bother counting those kids for any guest count or even asking their parents about food for them. No one I know would expect a wedding to serve baby food to their baby!
Post # 5
Thanks, that’s what I thought too. I just didn’t want to risk offending the parents 🙂
Post # 6
I would expect them to bring baby food without being asked, but I would also expect the host to supply a children’s, ultra small sized, vegetarian portion of dinner, just in case.
This works both ways…
Post # 7
@MaryKay14: Children under 1 eat baby food! But kids under 2 will probably eat off their parent’s plates. Still, I’d ask the parents and see what they’d prefer!
Post # 8
@MaryKay14: Could you tell them what the kids meal will be and ask if their child is capable of eating it? They may just say yea, they’ll eat that or, don’t worry about it, they can eat from our plates or we’ll bring them something. I don’t think it’s rude. It sounds like you’re wanting to be considerate of their needs. I don’t know if it’d be in your budget and it’s for sure not necessary, but we thought it was really sweet at my younger cousin’s birthday party that they gave my 7 month old neice a goody bag filled with infant snacks as opposed to candy like the others. You could always leave something at their seats?
Post # 9
If its only 3 kids, I would just reach out to the parents and ask? You know what they say about “assuming” … If it were a lot of little ones, I might respond differently, but three phone calls should take you 15-20 mins, which isn’t a huge burden, IMO. Better safe than sorry.
Post # 10
I agree that you should call the parents and ask them. 1-2 years old children do not eat baby food. Those children DO need seats at the table though.
Post # 11
@MaryKay14: +1 to other posters who say ask the parents. 1-2 years is a big range. At 12 months I’d probably bring some baby food; at 23 months I would not.