Post # 1
Because weddings are expensive, and I’m trying to cut back costs..
To the brides who had children at their wedding:
Did it affect the cost at all?
I want a small wedding to begin with- we’re talking like 50 people tops. FI and I just aren’t “people people.” Immediate family and vey close friends only.
The children would be my neices, nephews, and cousin. Like 6 kids total. One will be 6, one 8, the others all toddler-ish ranged.
Don’t get me wrong- I love my family. But I’m not an enormous “kid” person as a whole. I realize that toddlers are loud and rambunctious. That they need taken home early to sleep. That they’re picky eaters, and likely will not enjoy wedding food. Six year olds have short attention spans, and the 6-year-old is the sibling of the one toddler. Finally, the 8-year-old is incredibly loud and a super picky eater.
Now I can deal with the aforementioned picky eating, assuming that it will not cost me and arm and a leg to order them new food.
Anyone have experience with this? Did kids influence the cost?
(Still torn on even inviting them and having an adults-only affair, but willing to consider)
Post # 3
@the_future_mrs: I am getting married in Dec and I actually had this discussion with my wedding coordinator. Because we also only wants the close ones not everyone else kids. But ours was if they are close nit family there is no charge for anyone under 8yo. They just supply them with french frys and nuggets. But if they are over 9yo with close nit it was going to be $15 each. If they are not close family and are under 12yo they would be about $18.00 each anyone older is considered adult at the venue which is $80.00. But we can thank goodness because the only children we have are close nit under 6yo. :))
hope this helps a bit.
Post # 4
we are trying to keep a small wedding too, trying to keep it at 75 people. so far we have 75 adults and 7 kids under 10, so thats how I am going to send my #s to our event people, we may get charged a bit more, but I can not imagine not having the kids at the wedding at all. The wedding is about familys getting together to celebrate. and if you only have 6 is it really that big of a deal?? I would have a problem if it was like 20 kids, but for 6- 10 its totally worth having them at the wedding
Post # 5
We’re not having kids at ours. There are no small children in our family. But if it helps… a number of our guests have children, and not one single person has said anything bad about their kids not being invited. All we’ve gotten is “SO EXCITED for your wedding” type of responses. So… I’m assuming our parent friends are happy for a night out.
Post # 6
Depends on what you’re doing–most caterers will offer a cut rate for a small group of kids or will be happy to warm up something like frozen chicken nuggets and fries that you provide. Most kids don’t eat a lot at weddings, they are too excited and also there is a giant cake. They will pine all evening for the cake, and then they will eat 3 bites of and then careen about on a massive sugar high for the rest of the evening.
We’re having a larger wedding and are including kids in the count for food as half a person–so 2 toddlers are the equivalent of one meal. I don’t really agree with the idea of kids eating different food than adults if they are able to eat solid food so there will be no special meal provided for the kids.