Children at Weddings

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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941 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I’m sorry, I don’t agree with you. I have two kids and my FI has two kids. Granted, they aren’t toddlers, but I just cannot imagine us getting married and not having them there – for any reason.

I personally just think they add more to the event – which for us is very family-centric. I would still go to a wedding whether they invited kids or not, but I don’t judge people based on their decision either way. 

Post # 4
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2696 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

…this makes me sad. I understand that it’s your preference not to have kids at a wedding, but seriously judging others because they had kids there?

Weddings to ME are about family celebrating the coming together of a couple. Having kids at our wedding was hilarious, and brought so much life to the party.

Even when my friends’ 3 year old said, “Mommy, are they married yet?” in the middle of our ceremony, I loved it. It was hilarious, and I’m not *that* uptight.

I’m sure others would be mortified, but I do not judge either way.

On the flip-side though, when my friends got married and requested that we leave my DD at home, I was not offended or upset. That’s their choice (and your choice!)

I do think it’s kinda sad that seeing kids in other people’s wedding photos disgusts you so badly. What does it matter to you? My wedding album would make you vomit.. especially this one (yes she IS playing with my jewelry, and sticking her tongue out! EWWWW!)

 

 …really this whole thread makes the OP look pretty crass and petty.

 

Post # 5
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3570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I love children at weddings.  Here’s a photo of my neice and nephew at mine (they are not related).  They had wonderful day and I was glad they were there. 

Post # 6
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2576 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@luluvohn:  I found that the boards tend to split 60/40 when it comes to kids at weddings/no kids at weddings. No kids at weddings is not an unpopular option, but majority still is cool with kids at weddings.

Honestly, I do not like children, but I’ve actually found the “wild dancing kids” at weddings to be amusing and just add to the impromptu entertainment. At a wedding we went to this summer, there was this little boy in a blue tux dancing perfectly to the music – I told my FI that the little boy had way better dancing skills than him! The FI agreed, lol.

Post # 7
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2696 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@MrsTVLover:  OMG..sorry to thread-jack, but they are adorable!

Post # 8
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839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@luluvohn:  Nope, you aren’t alone.

I understand why people have kids at their weddings, but I’ve definitely been annoyed with certain misbehaved children at weddings I’ve attended. 

Post # 9
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6644 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Um no I don’t agree,  that is YOUR opinon not everyone’s. And it is your right but to say outright that children don’t belong in a wedding/at a wedding is just a matter of opion. 

I had quite a few children at mine a you would have never known.  They were decent and made no peeps during our ceremony.

If you don’t want children in your wedding that is fine but to say out right that is completely offensive

Post # 10
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6525 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@luluvohn:  the only kids we had at the wedding were the RB and FG. The only reason we didn’t have kids at the wedding was because we were paying $160 pp and kids were half of that which is $80pp and their food options were chicken fingers, fries or a burger and fries. Sorry but I am not [aying $80 per kid when their parents can get it for $5 at McDonalds. So we didn’t have kids for financial reasons.

If they would have told us kids eat free, than I would have had kids. Kids are fun, and I love seeing them get into the music.

It seems that you just don’t like kids, and thats ok, some people don’t.

“Wild dancing child” <—its called having fun. There are going to be a bunch of “wild dancing adults” whats the difference?

Post # 11
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480 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I don’t agree at all, I think kids mame weddings. I had friends and familie’s kids at mine, they were all well behaved but had wnergy and loved the dancing and confetti and infact everything. I see it as a family day and hence kids should be there. I dob’t expect everyone to agree with me but I’m definately pro kids at weddings. My flowergirl was so cute and excited to be involved (she’s 4), it was one of the best parts of the day.

Post # 12
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885 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

As a person who isn’t a big fan of kids (i.e., not sure if I want kids, never one to coo over a baby, etc) I personally think it’s nice to have kids at a wedding, but I think it’s up to the couple who need to make that call based on the type of wedding they are having.  We had about 15 kids at our wedding, and it had a very cozy, relaxed feel to it, so having kids there made sense (they were all very well-behaved and created some really cute moments which I felt added to the day!)  

Maybe it’s because I went to a lot of weddings as a kid, but I just think kids at a wedding is normal. 

Post # 13
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291 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@luluvohn:  I can totally understand your point of view and at first I was thinking of not having kids in our wedding because I just don’t want it to be babysitting them. But I’ve since changed my mind. We have way too many kids in our family to say no and when I think about it they are a big part of our families. Plus they really can be the life of the party and keep everybody young 🙂

Post # 14
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2851 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m with you!… I don’t have a problem with children being in a ceremony, but I believe the reception is a place for adults.

Post # 15
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1568 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@luluvohn:  We are not having children at our wedding aside from children in the wedding party. Not because we dont like children but because we are parents we love our child and we love the children that are close with us but we want to enjoy our night and not having kids crying and running around. I just dont enjoy it. If someone needs to bring their child to the wedding. Fine by me as long as it is not the 60 kids in our family.

Post # 16
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4819 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I understand have the couples kids at a wedding- that’s you’re own flesh and blood. I even understand flower girls and ring boys. But beyond that- NO hell no.

Reception is party time- when was the last time it was party time with toodlers? Never.

…in fact momma partied so hard flower girl was bawling her face off the entire night (auntie toook care of her). I’m all for GET A SITTER and COME AND HAVE A GOOD TIME! (is my view). 

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