- 2 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
This is a frequent subject on here. Some people don’t want kids “messing up” the ceremony, reception, or whatnot. When I found out how cheap kids under 13 were per person, I figured, why not invite them? My now husband and I have been super laid back about things and there was no desire for a “perfect” wedding, or anything too traditional. I mean, our wedding was in a museum, and this was our cocktail hour:
But I had fears. Dinner didn’t start until 8:20. Would that be too late for the kids to eat? Would all the parents leave my wedding at 9 PM so the kids could go to bed? Would there be screaming children all over the dance floor? My now husband said “why not trust our friends to decide whether their kids can handle it? And we did just that.
So let me tell you. At my wedding there were 16 kids under the age of 13. my beautiful flower girl was 8 months old, her twin brother was a ring bearer.
Our other family member had a one year old son who was also a part of the wedding. Several kids in the 6-10 area.
Now, all are pretty well-behaved kids to start off with, but I will tell you: the first parents left at like 10:30, so they stayed for awhile. These kids had ENERGY and made the dance floor so fun.
During the ceremony, the only cries came from my 8 month old ring bearer while his beautiful mother sang hallelujah…and as my husband said “he tried to sing along”. He stopped after about 10 seconds.
Here’s my wonderful bridesmaid holding my adorable flower girl during the ceremony. Her daughter is next to her. They took turns holding her. And yeah, it was the mom’s idea and it WORKED.
Everyone was smiling and laughing. Not one parent chastised anyone for cursing, drinking, etc around the kids. Everyone was so CHILL and relaxed.
I had heard the fears about kids at weddings. I’d consider the parents of those chldren when you think on whether to invite them or not. Sometimes kids are fun. Totally depends on the parents and the children, of course. Several parents decided to leave their kids at home. But those who brought the kids seemed ot have fun and those kids definitely added fun to my wedding. If you’re on the fence I’d think about the individual parents/kids before deciding on whether to invite them.