children at weddings

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

What was the cost for food pre child and the cost per adult?

Post # 3
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

audrey_lane:  Lovely wedding. I too had kids at my wedding, and I think they made the whole thing fun. I had more adults cry than children at my ceremony, my ring bearer was so good, and we had a ton of kids having fun on the dance floor. It isn’t for everyone, but for those on the fence on whether or not to invite, you may be surprised at how wonderful it is. Congrats!

Post # 4
517 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

audrey_lane:  What a beautiful and FUN wedding! Looks like it was truly a special day. And those are great words from your FI about kids. I thought about it too but he is right… just let our friends be judge for how the kids will do.  Thanks for posting.

Post # 6
42101 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Glad it worked well for you.  Each couple should be free to choose a child free wedding or have children attending, without judgement by other Bees. Neither is right or wrong.

Post # 8
2455 posts
Buzzing bee

Looks like you had a lovely wedding 🙂

Childfree weddings can be lovely too and doesn’t mean that the couple is uptight about having a “perfect” wedding.

Post # 10
1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Oh my goodness the kid’s Meal was a steal!

looks like everyone enjoyed themselves.

Post # 11
559 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I had a similar experience and have similar views. I was a little worried abuot allowing children but we ended up with 5 kids and 10 babies and everything went well. no one had to skip the wedding because of childcare. No children made a scene or a mess. The meal was cheaper than the adults’ meal and most of the parents brought food for their little ones and let us know ahead of time not to account for them in the costs.  The kids were adorable.I am so glad we included them.

Post # 12
423 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Our Castle

a friend of mine  had kids at hers and they were great! the life of the party till they crashed..

Myself i am plannnig to have my wedding at a park near the water and with everyone distracted and drinking i dont want anything to happen to the children. It isnt in an enclosed hall or room and there is stairs, road, water etc and an easily climbable wall that is two stories up.. It would be safe.. So 16 and up who 100% know how to look after themselves will be invited.


Obviously if anyone has babies in arms thats a little different.. but mobile children are more of a risk.. All my family and friends live fairly close and the friends that do currently have children have good family networks to assist in babysitting..

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 4 months ago by  MissFox.
Post # 13
1634 posts
Bumble bee


audrey_lane:  Oh my gosh, those are some pretty adorable kids! We too had quite a few kids at our wedding, 3 of them were flowergirls, and let me tell you, they STOLE the show! … That was the point and I loved it. Ond of our flowergirls was so played out by the ceremony time (7:30pm) that she carried her mom’s (my MOH) bouquet and her mom carried her down the isle. It was so cute. I have the most beautiful pic of my best friend and her daughter almost asleep on her chest at the alter, truly beautful! I got to dance and be silly with lots of the kids on the dance floor and I think the totally amped up the fun-factor. Plus, I have some pretty sweet pics of them in the photo booth lol. I think everyone has their own idea of a “perfect wedding” but mine definitely included the adorable kidlets 🙂

Post # 14
736 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

audrey_lane:  I am SO glad you posted this! Primarily because there are a lot of posts advocating child-free weddings, and I’m of the viewpoint that 9 times out of 10 the kids enjoy the event way more than the adults! Our kids love getting dressed up and going out to dance, and they always think the bride is a princess 🙂 Not to mention they keep the dance floor entertaining. We’re having a destination wedding next year, and there will be at least 6 to 10 kids (and about 30 adults), lol. All the kids are being included in the ceremony, so they’re pumped.

Anyway, if people prefer no kids at their wedding, absolutely, it’s their day! But it’s nice to see the opposite perspective as well! Your wedding looks like it was a blast! (And your flower girl was adorable).

Post # 15
7664 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

Well done for writing this. I’ve been to lots of weddings with children, and they have all been just fine. I never understood why people say “weddings aren’t suitable for children”. I think “why… what are you planning on doing? Snorting cocaine off the bare backside of a prostitute before having a public orgy?”

People drink at weddings, sure, but it’s not as if they get so hammered that they lose all self-control… at least, I would hope not. If they do, you have bigger problems than having children there…

Anyway, that’s just my two cents. Glad you had a great time!

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