(Closed) Children, you know the deal

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Thoughts on children?
    You have to invite them : (6 votes)
    14 %
    Don't invite them : (35 votes)
    80 %
    Other - explain : (3 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
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    45408 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Children in the wedding party are automatically an exception to any “no children” rule.

    Post # 4
    Member
    3849 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2004

    You can invite or not invite whoever you want.  If you don’t want to invite her or her children, don’t invite them.  Don’t not invite children that you would otherwise want there because of her.

    Post # 6
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    2782 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @lechevalnoir:  I personally find it extremely tacky to have a no kids wedding but have kids in the wedding party. I don’t think it’s right to pick and choose that way, and really wedding party shouldn’t be an exception to the no kids rule. To me its very much like giving +1’s to everyone except a select few, and many guests will find it rude when they see kids at the event.

    Post # 7
    Member
    4525 posts
    Honey bee

    @julies1949:  +1. I’m not sure if it’s an actual etiquette thing, but it’s generally accepted that kids in the wedding party don’t count. 

    Post # 8
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    831 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    We aren’t inviting children EXCEPT my two ring bearers and my flower girl, so I think it’s fine.  But their parents have already told me they are getting babysitters for them after the ceremony. The kids are welcome at the reception but apprently the parent’s are looking forward to a night off to party, which is fine too.

    Post # 9
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    9147 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    Why invite the great aunt at all if you don’t like her or her kids?

    @julies1949:  Ditto.

    Post # 11
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    122 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Love kids!  Hate them at weddings 🙁

    Post # 12
    Member
    1466 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I dont understand why it would be considered tacky if you have kids in the wedding but not invited. I love children and have raised several but I personally dont want them at my wedding. I am not having a flowergirl or ringbearer, I have been to several weddings and receptions when they cry, run and bump into guest, and lay on the floor.

    I think it is your wedding and you can do what you want and there is no etiquette for children in regards to those in the wedding party and those that are not invited.  

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