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We're doing adults only, 18 and up are invited. We wouldn't have many kids there if we invited them, but FI hates his younger cousins and didn't want them there, so we made a blanket rule of nobody under 18. As of now we're planning on giving everybody a plus one, but that could change down the road!
Between my friends and cousins, having kids would have more than quadrupled my head count. It just wasn't in the budget, nor was there space at my venue. We only had our nieces and nephews, all of whom were in the wedding party and had a blast.
Most of our guests were married. Everyone else I invited to bring a guest, although almost none of them did.
thanks ladies! 2 of my fiancee's family members have kids under the age of 5 and on my side i have my aunt who has a 7 yr old so there wouldnt be many kids attending so i wasnt sure if i should just allow those 3 kids or just ask them to find a sitter. I want my guests to have a good time and not having to worry about their kids. My fiance thinks i should allow some of the guests to bring a date depending on their status like being engaged. My sister is single and so is his brother so we are thinking about only allowing them to bring dates.
I'm having a hard time with this one.
Just because of circumstances there are going to be at least 12 kids at my wedding (nieces/nephews/kids of out of town guests that can't leave them behind/kids I've worked with who I'm friends with their parents as well) so I'd feel weird saying "no kids" then having guests arrive and see at least a dozen kids milling about.
What I really want to say is no babies or small children that are hard to manage. I'm fine with a dozen 8 year olds being there, I'd just rather not have the ceremony interrupted by crying infants. Still haven't figured out how to approach this.
I wanted children at the wedding but my FI did not. I planned on having them in a different room, with a child care provider and games and food esp. for them. I think that if you have children at a wedding it isn't fair to expect their parents to have a good time while chasing after their children. Also the children won't enjoy being treated as an adult (same table as adults, same room, same entertainment). You have to cater your event to your audience and if you want the kids and their parents to enjoy then you should design separate areas and entertainment for them. I believe that weddings and funerals are a part of life and excluding kids doesn't teach them much about the cycle of life. I'm not heartbroken about the lack of kids because my budget is small. I'm inviting teenagers because they're young adults and will enjoy the same things that the older adults will. People who don't invite children shouldn't feel bad. Some weddings are adult only events and there's nothing wrong with that. Kids don't care if you invite them or not. They won't even remember! As for inviting dates, I say no unless you're pushing for a big wedding. If you want a large wedding then you'll probably invite tons of ppl that you don't know (parents friends, parents co-workers, co-workers dates, estranged family, etc.) That's how weddings get out of control-you invite ppl you don't know or haven spoken to in years (which basically means you don't know them).
I believe in no children at a wedding. We are only having 6 children which are my FSIL's kids between the ages 2-8. I am not looking forward to it since some of them have behavioral issues. His sister's cannot afford babysitters, and my FI really wants them there. I love them , but I just don't think a wedding is a place for children.
I allowed it happily. We ended up having a total of 8 kids ranging in age from 2 to 10. I loved it and wouldn't have changed anything for the world! :) I was pretty easy.... I gave everyone a +1.
We are only having one child at my ceremony (my nephew who will be 6 by then) and NONE at the reception. Dont get me wrong i love kids but the younger ones can be disruptive and i have a huge family with lots of children so it would be too expensive. Plus we want more of an adult vibe. Once we really take a look at our guest list we will make a cutoff but im thinking 14 and up. Im not inviting dates because its too expensive plus we want to actually know everyone at our wedding.
Quite honestly, I think it's a little rude to not invite kids to the wedding, and I've always been a little surprised at how many brides on here are banning them. My younger cousins (14 of them ranging from ages 2-18) are like my little siblings. Yes, some of them have behavior issues and yes, I don't always get along with them, but they are my family and I want them to feel included! I always loved going to weddings as a child and I know my cousins would be very sorry to miss out! Plus it has to be difficult for parents to find a sitter, especially if they are travelling long-distance. I know many adults that can be just as disruptive as any child when they have had too much champagne.
I went out of my way to purposely invite all the children :) Although we don't have any of our own, children have been a huge part of our lives and I couldn't imagine getting married without them there, from my brothers two daughters to the 11 year old set of twins I've been nannying for since they were 6 months! If all goes well, we'll be having a photobooth to help amuse them and I'll make sure there's a basket of toys for playing with as well. Depending on how many come, we may also set up a play structure so they have somewhere to get out all their energy. We also invited everyone with a plus one.
I should add that our wedding is on a family property so there's LOTS of space for the kids to run without disturbing the ceremony.
we had only children of close family. so hubby's brother who's 12, younger cousins (6 of them ranging from 1 year old to 17), my two nieces who are 1 and 3 and thats about it.
as for guests bringing dates, we only allowed it if they were married, engaged or common law (living together).
I have two children of my own from a previous relationship, so I know how hard it is to find babysitting. We are kid friendly couple obviously and I'm even making a special table for the kids coming to our wedding. I should add we are doing buffet style, so additional cost for food is not an issue. I think its really a personal decision with alot a factors involved.
@Mrs.Pollietobe: Same here. We have three kids (one his, one mine, one ours) and we are having a kid-friendly wedding. Our count is about 16 kids and 80 adults. We plan on having a kid craft table with a girl (16) coming to "babysit" and lead some activities. We haven't sorted our catering but they still charge for children, over 5 at least. So, we are not sure how to do that part yet. If we did ourselves (how!??), we could definitely save a few bucks on all the kids food.
@elliegraye: We are very lucky in the food aspect as my neighbor is taking off a whole week of work to cater my wedding for me. She is only charging me the actual food cost and obviously I'm going to give her money for all her help. She would eventually like to open a restraunt and she really is that good! So the kids for us really are'nt an added expense to the food arena. I actually have 2 sisters who are quite a bit younger than my at 12 and 16 that can help with my little ones and the other ones have thier parents to watch. As parents go I'm sure a shift system could be worked out so everyone can have fun. It's really like I said depends on alot of factors! If I could make a suggestion to help save money speak to the caterer about a cheaper price for the kids by only doing nuggets/side, just order pizza, or have a friend or family member pre-wrap some hot dogs in foil. Just some ideas the little kids really won't eat much they will be to busy having fun not worth the high price tag.
This was a really hard one for me for a few reasons... I have 7 grandkids between the ages of 1 - 6. My FI has a 3 year old from his 2nd marriage. AND his sister has a 2 year old. How do we have a reception without these little people who are obviously VERY close to us??? When it came down to it, we decided to cut the age limit off at 12. We are getting married on the beach with the wedding reception being held right there in a clubhouse. If the older kids (12 and up) get tired or bored or whatever, they can go hangout on the beach, toss the football, whatever. I don't want to have to chase after little people all night nor do I want their parents to. I want the adults to be able to relax and enjoy themselves and if they are chasing after little ones, that is going to be very hard to do. I also looked at it from the perspective that my eliminating these from the guestlist, we freed up 9 seats. That's 9 friends we can invite and since we are paying for the food, I want someone who is going to appreciate it. Just don't think the little ones will appreciate the baked brie or the Mryland Crab Cakes. :-}
I have 2 kids (3, and 1) and alot of my family and friends have small childeren. I have only been to one wedding with no kids (except immediate family) it was fun, but a different vibe than I want. I like the kids dancing with the adults, and the pictures. Its just as fun to me as hanging with just the adults
I love kids, and the only issue I have is food cost. Thank goodness our caterer has left it up to us to decide if he should set up something for them (cheaper than the adult buffet) or we can bring our own. We are going to make a few kid friendly foods for those under 13, and haveing a kid helpper. I think there will be 20 kids and 180 adults.
Only thing I would say about the no infant rule, is some moms are exclusivly nursing and may not come if they cant bring the baby. Not saying you are wrong to not want babies, but if you really want someone who in that situation dont expect them to come, or be very happy if they feel they have to have them there.
I think we'll be having about 30 or so kids at our wedding....all family. Children were invited to my sister's wedding and they were soo much fun to watch dance and have a good time. Nothing went wrong! As far as the +1 dilemma, anyone who does not have a serious bf/gf is not getting one, with the exception of the wedding party, because our venue has a limit of 180 people and we're very close to that number.
We're inviting all kids. I love children and I kind of think it's rude to exclude them, both because the parents then have to figure out what to do with their kids (which is especially hard if they're travelling) and because, believe it or not, most kids actually want to go! They don't like feeling excluded!
The kids in the wedding (3) and one baby are invited. I don't want anybody to bring guests unless they are in relationships but we'll see when we get closer.. I have a feeling people will edge their way in. Hopefully, other people wont come to make up for it ;)
Well we would rather have no kids. But we want our relatives to be able to take their children. So there will be like 10 kids there. As far as guests, I'm allowing some of them to bring guests (because I know the couple or I know they really really love taking dates everywhere), but I can't let everyone take a date. It's just too many people. My college friends don't get guests (unless they are married or have a significant other). Mainly because they will all know each other and they should have fun without dates.
We are undecided on this one, but in my head the plan is to have 4 children at the ceremony - My 3 nephews and niece. They will be 10, 8, 5, and 2 at the time. I am hoping that my sister's friend (not invited to the wedding) will pick up the kids and watch them for the reception. I will get her and her husband a gift card to a nice restaurant as a thank you!
We wanted an adult-only reception. Kids are allowed at the ceremony but need to go home afterwards. We felt it was important for the Adults to be able to enjoy themselves, not chase their kids around all night. I feel that in most cases, children are not supervised the way they should be at weddings. They require a lot of attention and do not belong somehwere in which people are drinking. dancing, etc. Plus the cost to have all the kids at our wedding was outrageous!
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Hey hive!
just wanted to find out your opinions on having children at Wedding Ceremony/Receptions. Are you allowing your guests to bring their children? Are you thinking about specific age you are only allowing? What about your guests bringing dates to the venue?
Thanks and happy friday!