Post # 1
My future MIL is giving us a TON of pressure to register for China. We live in a one bedroom apartment and are happy to be renters. We drop things constantly and quite frankly- I just DON”T want it. She, however, is persistant and starting to get upset with me. Only me- she doesn’t even mention it to her own son, who for the record, is more against it then I am! What do I do?
Post # 3
We had the same thing happen. We actually registered for it and guess what? Not a single place setting has been purchased. So much for all of that research.
Post # 4
@navyblueandyellow: FI and I did not want to register for china either. But we wanted to register for everyday place settings that could be nice enough to use if we do have a dinner party. So we registered for a porcelain dinnerware set from Crate & Barrel. Will this appease her? Or is she insisting on china? And why? What is her reasoning?
Register for what YOU want, because YOU are the ones going to be using it!
Just in case you want to see what we registered for, here is a link to the 16-piece dinnerware set:
Post # 5
I’d say if you want to appease her, register for the entire set (which is usually like a few hundred dollars) instead of individual pieces. That usually deters people from buying it! If anyone buys anything for you; take it back to the place and exchange for something you like or for gift cards to use in the future. (Williams Sonoma and Crate and Barrel are both great options!)
Post # 6
if you don’t want it, don’t register for it.
Post # 7
What is her reasoning? If she’s bullying you into it, tell her NO. Tell her that you have no desire for it, do not want it, have no room for it, that you will not be registering for it, and you will return any pieces that you get.
Post # 8
Thanks a ton… good advice, the everyday, nicer looking is what I shall do:)
Post # 9
Truthfully, since your FI is against it too, I would have him bring it up. She may be more inclined to listen to him since he’s actually her son.
FWIW, we rent a house and are planning to buy one soon and I still don’t want formal china.
Another option if you want to take the passive approach: Register for the china. Return it all and get store credit for something you really want. Or if you register at BBB, I think you may be able to even get cash back.