China…or no china??

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: Should I actually add a China Collection to my Wedding Registry?
    Yes, go for it...when else are you going to possibly have a reason to get it? : (15 votes)
    38 %
    No, if you're not going to use it, don't askf so guests are more likely to select something useful. : (25 votes)
    63 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2878 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We registered for new normal dishes, not china – we knew we wouldn’t use it, didn’t have space for it, and would probably break it 😉 Plus, our new dishes are gorgeous anyway!

    Post # 4
    Hostess
    7630 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    My grandma gave me her china because she never really used it. She got it from her mother. While I love it, I have no use for it and it’s a pain to move, store and maintain. It has gold leaf in it so I never want to risk using it…but I can’t get rid of it for sentimental reasons. What a pickle! 

    Post # 5
    Member
    258 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @Ms. Drgnfly:  Hmm, that’s tough. I am of the thought that you absolutely should have a nice set of china in your household, and your registry is your best shot at getting it. If you don’t have any family who is passing you down a set, I would suggest adding it in. You don’t have to go crazy – fancy, but a nice, complete set of fine china not only makes special occasions more special, but it also becomes an heirloom.

    Also, if it’s an option, can you store it at a family member’s house until you have the space for it?

    Post # 6
    Member
    1670 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I would register for it if I wasn’t inheriting a set. I am – so I’m not – but I agree with the above posters, can you register and then store it somewhere? I’m getting my great grandmother’s set and the spode christmas china – but right now we live in a tiny NYC apartment, so my mother is storing it for me until we leave the city (2-3 years).

    Unless you are planning on not hosting formal dinners (and no shame if you’re not!) I think its always nice to have some fine china.

    Post # 7
    Member
    314 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I put everyday dishes on mine. Macys has buy one get one setting occasionally so I think it’s a great way to build a collection. They are Lennox and can be dressed up or down. I am getting my Nana’s gold rimmed China with 12 settings…so I’m pretty sure I don’t need anything fine China wise. But I want to replace our everyday dishes. My stuff is all chipped and has marks all over it from silverware. Think about the future how many people would you host for thanksgiving one day? That’s how I figured it out. I definitely want more & recommend more than a 4 person set of settings bc we always run out of dishes and its just the two of us.

    Post # 8
    Member
    1214 posts
    Bumble bee

    Once upon a time, a long, long time ago, I didn’t register for china and I’ve always regretted it.

    Post # 9
    Member
    351 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Are you “use the good china every day” types? If so, go for it. We are. Smile

    My mother insists that wedding presents aren’t just for now–they’re for a lifetime. I like that. So even if you don’t want to register for china, register for SOMETHING that you can call an heirloom someday. We registered for really nice everyday Lenox plates. They’re $50 a place setting instead of, like, $200 a place setting.

    I admit, thought, that was in part because I inherited a set of Noritake china from my grandma. So grains of salt and all that.

    Post # 10
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    1888 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    China is at the bottom of our list.  We don’t entertain, already have several sets of dishes that are bursting forth from the cabinets.  In addition since I am an only child and the last of the family I’m am inhertiing five sets of china eventually (anyone know where to auction or sell china!?).

    Post # 11
    Member
    641 posts
    Busy bee

    Personally, I’d skip it. If I am serving a meal where people are more interested and impressed witht heir tableware than with the food i put on it, I’ve done something DRASTICaLLY wrong.

    I think it’s coupled wsith years of watching my father keep the slowly breaking and chipping and diminishing set of china from his wedding. It’s super dated stuff, and in a dainty little rose pattern not really looking like bachelor pad stuff, and it is ALL chipped and cracked and generally looks like crap. But he’s attached to it because it was a wedding thing.

    Post # 12
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    2100 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I say do it! You can use china everyday and most are dishwasher and microwave safe these days. If you get something fairly simple, you can get fancy or patterned serving pieces  and us those during the holidays or special times. 

    We registered for a fairly simple pattern from Ralph Lauren and just our bowls and serving pieces are really jazzy. And everyone loves them. Lots of compliments at my shower! 🙂 

    Again, something simple will allow you everyday or frequent use and for you to have china…win-win to me! 

    Post # 13
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    2100 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @LibrarianTellsAll:  I really like your mom’s stance and totally agree. 🙂 

    A friend of mine told me her biggest regrets of items she didn’t register for were china, a beverage dispenser and serving items. She said that at the time she and her husband got married neither of them thought they would want a child. But about 4 years in, she really wanted one. They had a daughter. She says she hosts a lot of play dates and parties for her daughter’s friends and their parents. She said she always wishes she could have some nicer things to set out rather than the same crate and barrel dishes they eat on every night. And she would love to pass some items to her daughter. And then she also said that she ends up hosting far more showers than she ever thought she would in her life so serving pieces and the bev dispensee would come in handy. 

    Lastly, my aunt, married 25 years told me when I started to register, to not forget nice things. I asked her what she meant and she said she never registered for china serving pieces or a lot of china. Or crystal. She said married all that time and she wishes she had. She said she is asked to bring things to a pot luck, host a party, etc and everyone has nice things to bring except her. Again, she never considered having a daughter to pass things to and never considered nice events at 28, when she registered. They aren’t big entertainers, either. With the exception of my shower, every event is outside their home. But she said when she makes cupcakes or cooks simply for a holiday (just the 4 of them) she would like to have something nice. And again, she didn’t think of that when she got married and wanted to make sure I didn’t miss that. I registered for crystal and got it! 🙂

     

    To to each their own I guess!! 🙂

    Post # 14
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    351 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @Coral99:  Exactly! Even if a whole set of china is impractical, a few high quality, future heirloom pieces are wonderful to have and use. Maybe a few silvertone Wilton Armetale serving pieces and crystal? That will match any set of dishes!

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