Post # 1
Hey bees! I am getting married next October and because my father is Chinese, I would like to blend some of the Chinese traditions with Western ones for my wedding. I’ve already bought a red wedding dress in a Western style…but that’s about as far as I’ve gone. I don’t know how well the tea ceremony would go over with the FI, but he does want to bow/kowtow to my parents and his grandparents (who raised him) during the reception.
I’m actually looking for theme ideas for the decorations and little touches that can/should be included to pay homage to my father’s side of the family. Please, any suggestions would be wonderful and extremely helpful.
My colors are red and black and silver (I know black is mourning, but this isn’t a true Chinese wedding.) I feel comfortable having it as one of my colors because I’m just looking for elements and Asian touches to include int he whole decor.
Post # 3
I am also doing a Chinese themed wedding bc my groom is Taiwnese. We should def exchange ideas. My colors are green and pink. So here is what I am doing.
DIY double happiness embossed on invitation also cherry blossom on invitations
Chinese English invitation
Fan shaped programs at ceremony
DIY cherry blossom centerpieces, underwater flower centerpieces, and river rocks, and some bamboo decorations as well.
Possibly having Chinese Silk road dancers perform at my wedding (my groom does not want dragon dance)
Paper fortune cookie seating cards (or whatever theyre called)
either mini fan or double happiness cake topper
chopsticks for everyone.
If you have the option I would do a roast pig and other chinese food dishes.
I know my decor sounds a bit cheesy but only 15 ppl with actually be chinese at the wedding. He has a small family and a lot of his family is in Taiwan and cant make the trip.
Post # 4
Hi! Those are some great ideas – I’m thinking about bamboo centerpieces (we’re not having a sit down dinner, but an hor d’ouerve reception) though I still want to have tables and places for people to rest their feet. I really want a dragon dance (or maybe a lion dance) and paper fans would be a nice touch. I was thinking of wearing red chopsticks in my hair, made to match the color of my dress, but I think perhaps an exotic flower might be very nice.
I’d do a whole roast pig if I could, but I think we’re going to try to incorporate some specialty dishes into the carving stations/passed hor d’ouerves – there’s a dumpling dish I want to make sure we have.
I really like the idea of a Chinese english invitation – I was thinking of trying to come up with something that looks like one of those red envelopes we all know and love to receive, but I might go with something more traditional. I’m looking right now for an oriental fan Save the Date, lol.
I’m not sure how many Chinese guests I’m having – over 20 I think, but the majority should be my mom’s side who are all as white and American as can be. FI’s family is small – should be a distinct culture shock, LOL.
Post # 5
Hehe I meant Lion dance. my brain is not working today. Your ideas sound great.
Maybe you could serve tea at your reception. I have never gotten Asian tea at a reception and I think it would be fun. My venue does not allow outside food so I cant do that.
I also want to add brocade to something but I dont know where to add brocade. I love brocade. It is so beautiful.
Another thing I am doing is having my wedding at 4:30 so that we can start our life on an upswing. I heard from chinese.weddings.com (sister site to theknot) that this is a Chinese tradition.
EDIT my FI and I hope we get a lot of red envelopes. Are you doing a card box for the red envelopes?
Post # 6
4:30, huh? that exact time or the 30 min part? that’s interesting, i assumed with the whole 4=si(å››/æ»)=death thing it would be avoided. my FI’s white and I’m half Argentine but we met while we were living in China so we’ll want to incorporate some stuff without it being over the top. i have a couple qipaos and he has a chinese suit so maybe we’ll have some of our e-pics in them. we’ll also have the double happiness character subtly incorporated (maybe through embossing) and also some prayer flags, since we bonded while trekking through the Himalayas together. all of our touches be in softer, non-traditional Chinese colors rather than the bright stuff to keep it from getting over the top. i’m thinking we’ll have a candy bar too and have tiny takeout boxes for people to fill up with goodies. we’ll have some chinese friends and teachers probably, so i’m sure they’ll get a kick out of it!
Post # 7
Hey, I am just like you, Chinese father, and Caucasian mother!
I sooooo wanted to have the lion dance!! but we weren’t able to get them. 🙁
Anyway, the chinese touches i added were:
Gave out sandalwood fans for the ceremony (it was outside)
Little Chinese takeout boxes for the favors
Paper lanterns for decoration
And I changed into the Chinese red dress after the first dance (cuz I wanted to dance in my poufy dress LOL)
Post # 8
FI is Taiwanese and I’m Vietnamese. Here are a couple of things I’m doing to include the Chinese.
- Loose leaf tea favors in the attached favor box.
- Invitations printed in English, Vietnamese and Chinese.
- Belly bands around the invites.
By the way, I ordered WAY too many of the favor boxes, so if you want to buy some from me I’d be happy to send them your way!
Post # 9
@piglet67: Those favor boxes are SO adorable! How much are you asking and how many do you have? My wedding is not until next year, but it can’t hurt to nail some of this stuff down early. 🙂
Post # 10
@Lassroyale: I have 10 extra packs of 24 and paid $4 a pack, so how about $35 plus shipping?