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    msduck    August 2009  

    What are your thoughts on this?

     

    Although I am not very traditional and don't necessary believe in all this stuff, ie. cannot have pregnant people at wedding, can't go to wedding within one month of each other, etc. it is still something that kinda lingers in my mind especially because i am in the position. 

     

    What are your thoughts on these superstitions? Would you follow them just in case, just to be careful?

     
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    Yin    June 2, 2010   Delaware

    I am a tiny bit superstitious, so I tend to be more careful.  There's no way to follow everything and avoid every superstition.  If you really think about it, every move could turn into bad luck.  I wouldn't take it too seriously, and I will only follow those that make sense to me.

     
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    Joanne    May 2008 (Michigan) & July 2008 (Boston)   Boston, MA

    my husband and i are generally superstitious and even followed many of the chinese traditions. however, we couldn't imagine not going to his close cousin's wedding the next month after ours, and we couldn't imagine not including a close friend who was pregnant at the time to our wedding. 

     
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    eurekaanchovies    March 27, 2010  

    Is black bad luck at a wedding?  I've asked my bridesmaids to wear black dresses.  Is that bad luck?  What about my fiance and his groomsmen?  If they can wear black, can my BMs wear it, too?

     
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    greenorchidevents    July 15, 2010   Las Vegas

    I think it's in the blood to be superstitious when you're Chinese.  But the farthest I was able to take it was picking an auspicious date with our Feng Shui master.  That, and utilizing the red color scheme of course.

    My mother told me after the fact (since she didn't help plan) that I wasn't supposed to have a white unity candle during the wedding ceremony. Oops.

     
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    Mrs. DG    July 18, 2009   Seattle/Tahoe

    Oooh, my biggie is no knives as gifts.  I really, really didn't want to register for knives, but Mr. DG insisted... I don't think there will be any ill impact on our marriage, but I still cringed about it!

     
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    skyla.arts    May 31, 2009   Mountain View, CA

    I actually picked an auspicious day to register at city hall with my hubby .  For our wedding day, we selected a day that's auspicious for EVENTS - which it essnetially is because we're already married.

    I know it seems like 'superstition' and one could say it is, but keep in mind it is also deeprooted in our culture and religious/spiritual practices that is important.  While I didn't really keep many of those (my MOH is year of the tiger, LIKE ME!) but I think if you could follow them, follow them!  :) it'll make the elders happy~~ and the happy feeling will bless your marriage~ ^^

     
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    WhiteChocolate    August 8, 2010   San Francisco

    It's a bunch of crock!  Of course that is my American side speaking. My Chinese side being brought up to be superstitious is worried about everything.  If I can make my parents happy following Chinese supersitions and still make my fiancee happy that would be great if not it's a big headache until someone (my parents or fiancee) gives in.

     
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    Ms. Purple    May 22, 2010   Toronto, Ontario

    Personally I only follow a few and only mostlly because my parents have asked me to: had to pick a 'good' date for my wedding, no knives as gifts, no white flowers in my hair and no white flowers in my bouquet. but thats about it. 

    My sister was barred from going to a relatives wedding when she was pregnant and that just left a bad taste in everyone's mouth.  We've also had close family members choose not to attend my grandparents funerals just because their child was getting married that year.  So after a while these little things seem a little ridiculous. 

     

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